Single is not lonely: Why does my aunt always think you lack a boyfriend

Mar 27, 2020

I'm single, and I've been single for a long time, and I've never felt any inconvenience. My happiness belongs to me. I can do whatever I want, watch movies alone, eat ramen alone, and feel at ease.

But I don't know why, my aunts (and my mom) always think I should have a boyfriend, as if a woman's life is incomplete without a man. They seem to regard this as a lifelong vocation. Every six months, they want to introduce boys to me when the time is up.

The sacred thing of "introducing a boy" usually happens like this, an aunt who "thinks the younger sister she knows should have a boyfriend" meets an aunt who "thinks the younger brother she knows should have a girlfriend", The two hit it off, thinking that the family background, background, and education of the two younger brothers and sisters are all right, and they must be a match made in heaven.

Then one of them (because I have only been a girl, unfortunately I can only tell what happened from the girl's perspective) will receive a message, the content is nothing more than Auntie met a very good boy, how is his family? Well, you should get to know each other.

When I showed that I wasn't interested, my aunt would say that I don't have to be in a relationship, I just met to be a friend. You have long enough vacations in a row. You must be bored. Let's have afternoon tea together. .

At this time, based on politeness and a feeling of "Ah, I don't want my aunt to worry about me too much", although I didn't think it was necessary to participate in this event, I finally agreed. Well, okay, I'm going to widen my social circle and make new friends.

As the saying goes, practice makes perfect. I have participated in many such activities, and I found that there are SOPs.

1. Everyone gathers. In addition to both men and women, there will be one to three aunts (or mothers) present.

2. Auntie started to introduce how excellent the two sides are, and touted the two of them to the sky. All kinds of gifted students with great achievements, family backgrounds like oil tycoons, and even dug up small things from several years ago. The level of information is so detailed that I thought I would. Come out and run for president.

3. All the aunts suddenly said, "We still have something to do later, you two will talk slowly" and left the stage collectively.

4. The (embarrassing) chat time of "I've come here, if you want to know everyone, come to know everyone, who's afraid of who". Because the two are of similar age, they can generally talk about the topic, and it can be seen that the other party is indeed a good guy.

5. Happy times always go by so fast, it's time to say goodbye. Okay, before leaving, exchange LINE IDs and draw a period.

6. Go home! And then no more.

7. But the aunt felt that "there must be a second", so she asked the two Internet users to continue chatting. Had to have another round or two of (embarrassing) chat time on LINE.

8. Then there is really no then.

When it was over, I felt no regrets, but a sigh of relief. But after participating in this kind of activity for a long time, I can't help but reflect on whether it is really necessary to participate? I don't have any need for a "boyfriend". To be honest, if I don't have particularly overlapping interests after meeting with boys, of course I won't keep in touch. Everyone is busy in life, so why bother to care about a new guy who really doesn't know that well? friend?

And all the progress in this "getting to know the opposite sex" is that my aunt pushes me one step further. I take him one step further. When my aunt stops pushing, we stop. It is conceivable that the other party's situation is actually the same as mine, and there is no need.

The conclusion is that it is always the aunties and mothers who are in need. You are so like-minded, can you do it well and make an appointment to have afternoon tea? You can definitely be each other's best friends and have endless topics to talk about.