Reflections on the choice of cities - Hangzhou, Beijing, Tokyo, Shanghai

In the past year or two, there has been a migration phenomenon in a first-tier city——

A large number of companies and employees have evacuated from Beijing and poured into Shanghai, Hangzhou and other places, and I am also a member of the migration army, saying goodbye to Beijing and moving to Shanghai .

Regarding the topic of city selection, I really want to seriously share my thoughts with you today. I am very fortunate that I have written a written record of the city’s thinking about every change, and the nodes of these historical records are connected into a line, which helps me to provide a powerful “restore of historical data” when I look back today.

In this article, I will conscientiously show my thoughts on running around and tossing around in different cities in the past five years, no matter whether you are drifting away from your hometown at this moment, whether you have never left your hometown at this moment, or whether you have ever had the idea of flying far away It was finally dismissed, or you are still hesitating at the crossroads...

Well, as a person who has traveled to several cities in the past 5 years, I can indeed use my own practice to show and provide some lessons for you.

Hangzhou - Beijing

My hometown is Hangzhou. I was born in a feng shui treasure land with outstanding people and was nurtured and nurtured by the Jiangnan water town. However, my family education did not nurture me into a gentle southern girl. I grew up in a family like educating men. Growing up in an educational environment, my rebelliousness, hostility, bravery, stubbornness, aggressiveness... have been thoroughly cultivated in my bones. Lady, gentleness, feminine charm... almost nothing in me.

When I was young, my toys were slingshots, toy guns, Ultramans, and neat short hair. In junior high school, I even asked my mother to buy me men's clothes. The gender consciousness of teenagers has been "male" by default in my mind, and this kind of character is also How much foreshadowed my later adventurous spirit.

Hangzhou five years ago was far less attention and praise than it is today. At that time, I decided to give up staying in Hangzhou because of a meal. After all, I am too familiar with this city. , I don’t worry about eating and drinking, so besides inertia, what other possibilities can I bring to change behind this comfort? So I instead embarked on a trip to the north, and decided to do something very conflicted and sloppy.

In my 2016 article, I described Beijing 's choice as follows:

However, on my journey to the sea of stars, I was not favored by the people around me. They sarcastically said:

""North Drift" is just to pretend. "

"Beijing is full of famous schools, what capital do you have to compete with others?"

"You, a fresh graduate, will not be able to endure hardships and come back crying within two months after arriving in Beijing."

"Beijing is a terrible city. Not only is the smog serious, but everyone is bragging."

"Let's have a good life, but I have to go to Beijing to mess around and waste time."

It's just that I knew very well that if I didn't choose to leave when I was young, I would be wrapped in comfort and comfort and lose the will and motivation to fight. Life is so long, if you are confined to one place all your life, then you will miss the splendor of life and lose the infinite possibilities. What's more, the comfortable days can be enjoyed in old age, so why waste time in the youthful days when you should struggle the most?

Obviously my idea was not understood at the time. Even close relatives and friends around me are constantly passing on full of negative energy. They told me with their own social experience: "You are a person who has not stepped into the society, your thoughts are really naive, the bad people in this world will always be It is the overwhelming majority, and sooner or later you will pay for your naivety."

The day after my birthday, I packed my bags and set off for Beijing alone. My mother reluctantly sent me to the station. The station was full of people carrying big bags and small bags. Everyone was holding a ticket to Beijing tightly in their hands, and I was just hiding in this group going to the north. One of the drifting crowd.

Content editing, interviews, event planning, copywriting, brand marketing, seeking market cooperation... Depending on the nature of the work, one's own identity needs to be constantly changed, and the title also needs to be changed along with the task.

Sometimes when a person walks back home, his heart is really broken, and he is so tired that he really wants to cry, but he can't cry. He can only use running as a way to relieve stress and release stress. Sweat dripped down from his forehead, panting for breath. When he looked at the brightly lit buildings standing in front of him, what flashed in his mind was "there is not a single lamp in every house that shines for me". desolate.

Yes, this is Beijing. A place where you can break down and cry, then wipe away the tears and keep running.

This is when I came to this city without hesitation and said to others: " The fastest way to grow is to put yourself in a situation of isolation and helplessness. The reason why weeds are tenacious and can grow wildly is nothing more than the harsh environment around them. Its oppression. If you want to exercise your ability to survive and your will to survive, just throw yourself in a desperate situation. If you can survive it, you will become stronger. If you can't survive it, then die."

During this year, I have come into contact with many interesting people and things, and I have learned how precious time is. I have not only learned a lot of work skills and knowledge, but also learned how to live.

Beijing's pace is fast. When you take the elevator, you will see that there is always a lane on one side of the elevator for those who are in a hurry.

People around them will constantly exchange experience and knowledge, they are full of wisdom, good thinking, and also work hard. Young people in their thirties are full of vigor and fighting spirit, unlike young people in their twenties who are like stagnant water, alive but seem to be dead.

In such an environment, they are all whipping you to run forward without stopping.

This is the place with the highest concentration of talents in the country. In such an environment and pressure, you are no longer a frog in the bottom of a well in a small city. You will know yourself more clearly, face yourself directly, and have a firm goal instead of just living your life in the dark. one day.

Your once proud and complacent will be turned into modesty and motivation.

Beijing has changed a me who enjoys comfort and stability.

The growth and harvest this city has brought me is enough to affect me for the rest of my life. If you are timid, then don't crowd into this city, otherwise you will only get disappointed and choose to flee.

Beijing - Tokyo

In 2017, I wandered in Beijing for more than a year, and I made another bold decision to go to Tokyo alone, even if I had nothing, even if I didn't even know the kyuhyun, at that time, in the eyes of many people, I was Reckless, impulsive, willful, but after many years, those voices really disappeared, disappeared.

I like to record, I like to write down the voices of doubts in the past. In my eyes, this is a wake-up call. Even if I was reckless at the time, I will review the past decisions and think about the cost of being reckless. , to think about how to turn this price into a valuable experience in one's own life, instead of picking up the foot that was already hanging in the air after being evaluated.

In my 2017 article, I wrote this about Tokyo 's relocation:

In fact, when I chose to try, I was not fully prepared, but when the opportunity presented itself, if you chose to give up because of cowardice and fear, then you would not even have a 0.1% chance.

However, people are always accustomed to amplifying the "what if" probability of risks and challenges, while the "what if" probability judgment of good things is almost zero.

Many things are small probability events. In the face of small probability events, people often choose to give up betting chips, but forget that sometimes the value of probability can be artificially interfered to affect its ratio.

If you just shake the sieve to guess the size, then this random risk cannot be reduced. But there's not that much "random risk" in life, as long as you're willing to put some effort into researching it.

Most people tend to overlook a point: that the things that make you miserable often make you really grow, and even systematically build your own thinking.

Sometimes when you are alive, the choice of the first second overwhelms the choice of the next second. If you cannot escape, no one will face it for you.

People have lived similar lives, but have they ever thought that this is what they want to do, is it the life they want? Many people crowded together to choose your choice, few of their own. Is it because it's safe to be like everyone else and can't be wrong, or it's because I never thought about what I was going to do.

I've been laughed at, I've been questioned, but so what?

If you don't choose to do it because you are afraid of failure, you will always be a LOSER. To this day, I am grateful to those who have laughed at me and questioned me. Without you, I may not be where I am today, and I would not be crazy to improve my speed.

Many people are afraid to try, by their very nature they are afraid to face the so-called failure. But what are the consequences of this failure?

Few have thought about it seriously. In fact, most failures have no consequences. All you need is JUST DO IT.

In the past two months, I have encountered countless difficulties. Surviving under high pressure and the Japanese culture, I, who was originally very casual, suddenly restrained a lot. Especially when you need to communicate with others in Japanese, you will subconsciously bend down and nod to say "I'm sorry". I don't think I've ever used "apologies" that much in Japan combined in my entire life.

How to quickly find the meaning of life?

In my eyes, it is to write a novel about the life I am currently experiencing, and see if it has internal coherence. The meaning is contained in the coherence.

Record these experiences little by little, even if some people or things, the life cycle that intersects with your life is fleeting like a meteor, the impact and experience it brings to you will make you remember it in your heart, whether it is Good or bad experiences are worth recording and reviewing. After all, growth is built up step by step in these experiences.

From leaving China to going to Japan, this is a kind of self-challenge, a change of original thinking habits and a challenge to living habits and patterns.

If life in Beijing has allowed me to meet friends from all over China, I have experienced the cultural differences and dietary habits between the North and the South, and met many interesting and fascinating souls and ideas. And even more so in Tokyo, a place that contains all kinds of different cultures, ideas, religions, countries...

In fact, the vast majority of our lives, the core and the way we perceive the world, our language, stems from concepts, abstractions, analogies that are understood at every level... Language can indeed influence our thinking. In this context, language seems to have an indescribable mysterious power.

Understanding comes from interaction, from constant negotiation with the environment and others.

So when I switch to another environment, I switch to another mindset.

With the help of metaphors, we can understand the new experience of the unknown, and explore the unknown world through the familiar part of the past experience.

This is not an objective, abstract, isolated, closed category and definition, but a sculpture that highlights and hides phenomena that constantly generate new meanings in the interaction between people and specific contexts.

Tokyo - Beijing

After staying in Japan for a long time, the makeup style, clothing and aesthetics will be biased, not to say exclusion, but in retrospect, I find that my subconscious behavior is influenced and controlled by the environment.

Because I think Japan is very good in fashion, I will imitate it and make myself look like a Japanese. Instead of going to Thailand to play, I don’t want others to think that you are Thai. This is the existence of prejudice and discrimination.

Through this kind of behavior, I have indeed heard many Japanese people say that I feel that I am not very similar to the Chinese, but more like a Japanese girl. Why? Because in their impression, most Chinese women are sloppy, don't care about their own image, and go out with their face up, so when you hear this "compliment", are you happy or embarrassed? For me, both occupy.

I'm happy that my makeup skills and dressing aesthetics have improved, and I have mastered basic Japanese makeup and Japanese dressing skills. Besides "sad", I'm sad because the Japanese have a deep-rooted stereotype of China, and there are such stereotypes. On the one hand, the impression is that such a phenomenon does exist in China.

On the other hand, the Japanese media seizes special cases to magnify and exaggerate, and write news with a subjective orientation. So naturally the Japanese will have a cognitive bias towards China.

The more I get in touch, the more I find that no matter what age or class Japanese people are, there are some more or less cognitive biases towards China. So at that time, when I was working three or four hours a day, when it came to a sore throat, I even volunteered to extend the time, just for a little more cultural output.

The thought at the time was:

I hope that through education, while passing on the value to others, we can also export the excellent culture of our own country.

This is a sense of inner satisfaction and achievement that cannot be exchanged for money. Whenever I see that they are surprised and excited about what they say to me, I often have a sense of ritual in my heart that I have completed a certain mission.

"The entire country of Japan is a lost generation. The low-desire society, including their purpose of learning English, is to escape, not to gain self-confidence and self-improvement from the bottom." Not to mention whether the evaluation is one-sided, it is true that most of the people I have come into contact with are The purpose of students learning English is to be able to work and live overseas in the future. At that time, they did not think too much about it. Now that I think about it, there may be such a possibility.

If I choose to leave Japan, it will take a great deal of courage to overthrow past choices and experiences and start over.

The longer you live in Japan, the more serious your thoughts are assimilated . Don't think how high you live in Japan. In fact, after you really live, you will find that this country is a very contradictory place, just like in "Chrysanthemum and the Knife". As said, it is not bad at all, its advanced and backward, conservative and open can exist at the same time.

I think that I am so enthusiastic about education because the first is that I can help others realize their self-worth, and the second is that I can do a lot of cultural output, so that the Japanese can strengthen their cognition and understanding of China.

What I am doing now is meaningful and worthwhile in my opinion, better than doing nothing at all.

But a friend told me:

"You are acting like a missionary, and you can only affect one in 100,000,000 people. Now is not the age of great seafaring, why choose to preach in the most traditional way? If an Indian or Vietnamese told you A certain industry in their country is particularly developed, and they want you to raise your awareness of their country. Would you like to? Maybe what he said was very good, and you were surprised, but would you really take the initiative to understand?

In short, it is not your little output that really makes them want to know, but the rise of the entire country and nation behind you, so looking at the essence of the problem is wrong. "

."Don't try to make up for strategic mistakes with tactical diligence."

"In the wrong direction, every day you go, you need at least twice as much time to make up for it."

Beijing Shanghai

With thoughts on "education", I have experienced industry, traditional education, and returned to the embrace of the Internet after a year. I have to say that life is sometimes full of uncertainties and challenges.

Maybe in the eyes of some people, I am really tossing and even ridiculous, but as the other person said, "Don't pay too much attention to other people's opinions."

I can't be sure that this choice must be the right one, but at least I know in my heart that what I want is in Beijing, and only this city can give me.

I returned to China in August 2018, from the initial confusion to now embarking on the road of freelancing, using my interests to achieve multiple incomes.

I have multiple sources of income, and there is no so-called right career, because every one of them is my right career: freelance writer, knowledge planet, homestay landlord, operation consulting, Japanese teacher...

At that time, when I opened my eyes every day, it was as if I was stepping on a swaying deck, and what was flowing was not the river, but myself. For a moment, the rapids and the strong sense of dizziness, I only know that I have to ride the wind and waves, but I forgot to stop and ask myself: Where am I going?

Live a life of "self-exploitation" every day.

Standing at the next intersection in my life and looking back at those experiences, what pops up in my mind is not "inspirational", but "self-exploitation".

Enthusiasm, excitement, anxiety, disorientation, conflict, impulsiveness, fearlessness, they clung to me before I was 25 years old.

Happiness and beauty are gradually lost in the process.

Merit society has a prominent feature: there is a collective unconscious in this society - the desire to maximize production, the desire to improve the overall efficiency, that is to say, the collective desire to be "faster, stronger, better".

The world unfolds before us naked, life becomes survival, life becomes consumption and socialization.

Stimulated by the naked, fleeting life, we become hyperactive, take on oversaturated information and put into production in a hysterical attitude, people gradually become unbearable for any boredom, active life becomes absolute, it seems Working non-stop and overtime is the only way to redeem yourself.

The high-frequency, fast-paced, and high-density society directly causes human beings to shift from being exploited by others to "self-exploitation", and the consequences of this self-exploitation are:

Their ability to sense the world is reduced, their personal lives are lost, and they are more like components of machines, leading to a sense of crisis in contemporary society, fragmentation of society, and disintegration of families.

The words "love, freedom" will be the focus proposition of my next stage of life.

Shanghai

I used to dislike Shanghai, I even hated it.

When I was a child, I was taught that many Shanghainese were xenophobic and stingy, but I have dated several Shanghainese, but they changed my prejudice against Shanghai and Shanghainese to some extent.

Including my later exposure to Japan and Latin America, many of my previous stereotypes are being refreshed and corrected.

Why is it so easy for individuals to have a lot of prejudice against a certain person, a certain occupation, a certain group, a certain part of a city, a certain city, a certain country...? Because of the direct contact with the details and the surrounding ambient sound, a certain feeling is naturally implanted in the body, and it is difficult to correct it later.

If you are less tolerant and less open-minded, then you don’t have to think about it, but if you have had unpleasantness or festivals with this event or person, it is really difficult to change your mind later.

Therefore, my bad impression of Shanghai people lasted until my university, when I didn't want to go to Shanghai at all, I felt that the city was petty. The funny thing is that I have never lived in Shanghai, but I have such a deep prejudice against Shanghai.

Until now, I have experienced a lot and been in contact with a lot of people and things, and I understand that many unpleasant experiences at the moment do not necessarily need to be enlarged to the entire population, or even the entire city. After all, it is just an example.

Completely decided to move from Beijing to Shanghai, in fact, there have been a lot of foreshadowing.

If Beijing is a city where you are willing to bury your head, struggle, and struggle day and night, honing a lot of skills, concentration and resistance to pressure from the outside world, then Shanghai is like a city that will hold you back and let you Slow down and enjoy life in the city.

It combines the dual attributes of life and work. It will neither make you excessively greedy for pleasure, nor excessively require you to bury your head in struggle.

In the fall of 2020, when I went to Shanghai to attend an event and have an appointment with a friend, that moment made me think about moving to Shanghai:

Originally, I arrived in Shanghai to make an appointment with a friend. At that time, I had to walk for a while from the subway, but I couldn't find any bicycles on the street. Helpless, I could only speed up my pace and arrive at the restaurant at the appointed time.

I remember walking on Anfu Road that day, I wanted to bury my head and hurry on the road, but I was attracted by the exquisite bungalows and small shops along the street and the neat phoenix trees on both sides of the road. I was in a trance.

All perceptions of "time" suddenly became extremely slow in an instant, so slow that I could even watch the whole process of the leaves falling slowly from my eyes to the ground. After leaving the Beijing subway station, I stepped on a bicycle and went straight to my destination. The state of being in a hurry is completely different.

When I arrived at my destination, Pai Pai took the initiative to mention "the perception of time" to me, and asked me if I felt that time was slowing down when I walked over? At that time, I felt that she had a strong spirituality. While we were eating flame cream dessert, we chatted a lot about inner time perception, awareness, and so on. I can still picture the image at that time in my mind.

At that time, I was already thinking about moving to Shanghai. I felt that the environment could change a lot of people's ideas and even give me inspiration for my creations, but I only said that I hoped to move there.

Sometimes, making a decision is an instant thing, but the seeds have been planted long ago, just waiting for the chance to emerge.

In 2015, when major decisions are made, it is only time for a meal;

In 2017, when making major decisions, it was just a trip alone;

In 2018, when making major decisions, it only took one night;

In 2021, when making major decisions, I only think about one afternoon.

In fact, the density of major decisions made in recent years is very high. When making decisions, the whole person is very uncomfortable, and even it is difficult to breathe to a certain extent. But every time I made a decision, what happened next was a huge change in my life, and the change was downright, deep-rooted.

Each chapter is a precious story, and the density of life may be several times more than that of many people in the past few years.

I sometimes wonder, if the word "destiny" really exists, is it somehow that I'm being led in the dark.

Although I am not fatalistic, I vaguely feel that sometimes when you walk, fate will put a fork in front of you, and how to choose is entirely up to you.

But I know very clearly that now is not the final destination, it is still tossing, staying, tossing, staying... Destiny will still put another fork in front of me every few years, they may be risks, It could also be an opportunity, and all you can do is make a decision and move on.

Some cursors have been lit up on the map of my life, but there are still some cursors and regions to be opened and unlocked, and I am lucky that the so-called free will still remains in me.

At least when making a choice, although there is pressure and I know the cost, I will be full of expectations and excitement for the road of decision every time, and I will reap huge wealth in life every time.

Fortunately, I have the habit of recording, recording everything that happened, recording my thoughts, and recording my mood. Only then can I look back at this moment at some point in the future and re-substitute myself. Just like at the moment when I go to the record of decision-making from a few years ago, I really want to tell her:

"The decision you make is really the best choice at the moment. Whether you rely on courage or strategy at the time, in short, that choice pushes you step by step to where you are today, and today you are the look and state you longed for before, so No matter how you make decisions in the future, it will definitely rise steadily under fluctuations.”

I also meet some friends who tell me what to do. In fact, I also faced a similar dilemma.

Sometimes there is no choice, there is only one way in front of you, and sometimes you can choose, but the unknown and complexity will directly dissuade many people. After all, most people are not risk-oriented and their psychological tolerance is not so strong.

However, once you choose a path that is not so easy to walk, and experience it, that kind of transformation is actually quite thorough.

So some people are lucky enough to have good hands and get the results they want without breaking a sweat. Some people have experienced a lot of pain and pressure that ordinary people can't imagine, but the transformation is also huge.

But I still have a point of view. When you are young, it is really a good thing to endure a little hardship and toss a little bit. Only by constantly experiencing it yourself can you improve your ability to solve and deal with complex problems.

In doing so, what you want to get is not necessarily material results, but more of these experiences can make you think about your life seriously and think about your own meaning as a human being in this world. As for whether you can use your own practice to provide meaning and reference for future generations, it also has great significance.

So although I am living in the present and still young in terms of age, I often think about what value I can leave to young people or my descendants decades from now.

Fortunately, I still have many years to continue learning, improve my abilities, keep pouring water into the "wisdom" sink, and make my system constantly complicated, so that I can have a stronger ability to deal with uncertainty.

write at the end

Two days ago, the state of thinking and choice about "city" may have touched a friend, and it was his feedback that made me decide to write this article about the city's tossing and turning experience, and bring more confused and hesitant friends. Some thoughts and lessons from us.

The full text is as follows:

I just had a drink and chat with two friends who came from Beijing on a business trip at an open-air restaurant in Happiness, and talked about the feeling of the "city".

I have lived in cities such as Beijing, Shanghai, Tokyo, and Hangzhou on a yearly basis. There are actually many points to share about the topic of cities, but I will talk about the real scene when drinking.

The two friends are in a hurry, full of tired looks. They just landed in Shanghai today and have been working and interviewing non-stop. During the dinner, they need to frequently deal with work information on the mobile phone during our chat, and they apologized to me from time to time: "I'm really sorry for letting you see our roll."

I couldn't help laughing and said: "It doesn't matter, if the "feeling" can be recalled, then you have outlined the "feeling" that I used to be very familiar with , you don't have to worry about me, you can understand, I came here too, but it does not affect It's my time, I'm not in a hurry. "

When they were dealing with their mobile phones, I looked around at the pedestrians on the road, and there was a big dog across from the adjacent restaurant. The passers-by were playing with the dog, and a boy was sitting next to them, also watching them play with the dog. I was happy. It is in these casual moments of life that arise spontaneously.

I remember that when they left by taxi, they were in a hurry. The taxi showed that they arrived in 3 minutes, and another girl felt that it was too slow.

When I didn’t come to Shanghai, I was also in a hurry. I was in a hurry to check the time, and I was in a hurry to get from one destination to another . I didn’t want to expose too much time in the dusty and roaring air. I never thought about letting myself slow down for a walk and observe the city. The road is full of galloping, everyone is in a hurry, even running on the subway.

When I first graduated from work, I had to squeeze the subway in Shuangjing every day. Before people entered the subway station, there was already a long queue outside the station. As soon as the gate opened, a group of people rushed in like crazy, for fear that the gate would stop them. Have to wait for the next trip.

And I was like one of those "sardines". After rushing in, I picked up my pace and started rushing to the subway. I didn't dare to neglect for a moment. People around you ran faster than you, and you would only be affected faster.

Before I decided to go to Beijing from Hangzhou, I knew that I would go through this. I felt very good. When I was young, I was always excited and fighting for my career. I wanted to experience the "fast pace" of Beijing so that I could grow up quickly.

Sure enough, this city satisfies my desires, and the people around me are full of passion and desire for success, and I am immersed in it. Naturally, "efficiency is king" has become my survival code at that age.

Later, I fell into confusion and emptiness, in this jungle world where I experience the sardine version every day, I don't know when this cycle will end, so I cut off the definite ascending channel.

Persuasion from the boss, incentives from options, year-end bonuses, dividends, rank... All kinds of temptations don't seem to have any stimulating effect on me, yes, I gave up, gave up being that sardine, and turned around and invested I never imagined the uncertain path, facing possible risks and costs without regret.

After leaving the confirmation system and the social evaluation system, it seems that it should be slow, but in Beijing, I still can't let me abandon the rule of "efficiency is king". I will still pursue efficiency and think about how to reach the "destination" faster. Is there any shortcut to take. The background sound of the surrounding environment is still those of business, entrepreneurship, opportunities, money, cooperation...

To be honest, I like to talk about this very much, and I also like to explore business. In the first year I went to Beijing, my bookshelf was full of entrepreneurship books and efficiency books. Everyone was reading them. When I opened my mouth to come to those things, I became very "knowing", I was well versed in the knowledge in those books, and I got the knowledge points in the books at my fingertips.

At that time, many entrepreneurs thought that I was very powerful, and wanted me to start a business and then vote for me, but I was very empty, because I was in my early 20s and could only talk shit.

Now, some people say that I am "literary and artistic", but I am not grounded. I think it is right and wrong. Because I have already experienced being unliterary, experienced being ungrounded, and have also experienced business talks and exchange of interests that go straight to the topic without a bit of nonsense, this feeling is indeed addictive and has a sense of accomplishment. But then I found out that these things are short-term pleasures.

What I want to emphasize here is that if you haven’t experienced it, you can experience it, because they are very important, they need to be experienced, and you can’t criticize these bad things without experiencing them in the past.

At least, when I look back today, I am very grateful to the me who was 'killing mad' at that time, the pursuit and desire for efficiency and success, the strong purpose that I gained, but also lost.

Lost things, called "love", called "happiness".

At that time, I was unhappy, I was very anxious, my hair fell out, and even the other half of my intimate relationship was involved in my "efficiency system" together. Is this woman scary? horrible.

I also have mixed evaluations of my past self now, I don't like her, she has gained and she has lost.

Now, after changing the city, I have become "slow", really slow, I don't think about taking a taxi to the destination, but walking around in the alley at a very slow pace, stopping to see, Look at the shops on the street, look at the trees on both sides, and see how people interact...

My reading has also changed from a pile of business books to humanities and social sciences. Reading these makes me feel very happy and allows me to see a bigger world. Instead, my pattern has been enlarged. People's understanding, self-understanding is also deeper.

I found out that "slow" is "fast" , what exactly does it mean.

But I didn't abandon business, and I fell into these spiritual pleasures since then, because I still like business and business. I like to come up with ideas to help others get the fruits of business, and I like to see different business models and ideas. It is precisely because of the understanding and knowledge of humanities and social sciences that I am broader.

The choice of the city, for me, is a change in another life stage, and a deep extension of my understanding of myself.

Every choice at every stage, I know what I might get out of this city.

Beijing has achieved "efficiency", "business", "speed", "hard work", "down-to-earth", "rough and honest";

Tokyo got "rules", "details", "etiquette", "decency", "ceremonial sense", "punctuality" and "variety";

Shanghai got "slow", "observation", "exquisite", "humanistic", "polite" and "rich";

Tokyo and Shanghai are actually very similar.

I will live in Latin American cities for a while, what will I get? I don't know, but I can imagine.

Therefore, I especially want to say that if it is possible, enriching one's own experience is a very important thing. The shaping and influence of the environment on people is really too great, far beyond my imagination.

The city will affect the state of people, and it will shape a part of the personality, becoming a diverse, malleable, open-minded person, no matter where you are, you cannot live a bad life.

In the end, although I don't like some of my previous states, what I particularly like is her "daring", daring to go to different places to get certain things, she knows that there is a high probability of what she wants, so she goes and what people around her say , it doesn't matter why you are not optimistic, after all, life is yours, just don't let yourself down.

As for me, to this day, I still haven't completely decided where I want to settle down.

The spirit of adventure and exploration in my bones will still urge me to continue to migrate and toss. In the future, I will go to many countries and cities to continuously enrich my life experience and let the characteristics of these cities and cultures be engraved into my personality. inside.

Circumstances can limit the formation of diverse personalities and open minds, and fluidity brings profound meaning to breaking the rigid thinking in the mind and providing some possibility.

If there is a chance, I still recommend going to different cities and living in different countries. My current situation is that this tossing has not made my life worse, but instead, I have more and more opportunities, my self-awareness and the understanding of the external world are getting deeper and deeper, and my happiness is getting higher and higher.

Maybe my experience may not be replicable, but courage can.

If you don't like the environment you're in, and feel like you're being "rolled" like crazy, I really suggest slowing down, stopping, jumping out of a flat perspective, and looking at some of the options you've denied, even if you don't think there's any." "Use" option or possibility, often only find many possibilities when it is slow.

Beijing can be your starting point, but not your end point.