Dan Bao's "Love Lesson" is online: In an era when people are ashamed to talk about love, "love" seriously | Limited time offer

Today the fourth course of Matters is online: Danbao’s Love Research Course .

Words and symbols about "love" are almost everywhere nowadays. When we discuss love, marriage, and intimate relationships today, the concepts that often appear are conditions, economy, techniques for "managing relationships," "secret tips for preserving property," and "how to keep your eyes open before marriage."

Emotions have become a resource that cannot be wasted casually, or an unrealistic fantasy, while getting along is politics that needs to be managed with skills. Intimacy is like a business that may lose money or make profits.

Or, love has become a kind of happy chicken soup, in consumerist-oriented emotional accounts, in sweet idol dramas, or in youth memories with a time filter, and few people seriously ask questions about love. .

In short, we live in an era where we are ashamed to truly talk about love.

Now, we hope to break the above two perspectives - not a life guide, nor an emotional chicken soup, but to analyze love itself as a problem, a set of concepts, a culture, a discourse, and an ideology .

We want to have a good "love affair." Love is the emotional experience in which the subject dares to face harm with his own vulnerability. Love is the space for jealousy and hatred to grow. In love, political power with subjectivity can be born. Love is a "disease" and love is a dilemma. Also ideal.

There is no life guide for seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages in this course, or tips for obtaining love. It cannot help you obtain better love, but it can help you understand love better——

Understanding our own pain and expectations, what good love might look like, how our understanding of love has been shaped historically, and whether love can become a greater communal force.

This is the first time that Dan Bao, an observer of emotional issues and an anthropological researcher, has started a class. She will systematically use anthropology, sociology, history, narrative and other disciplinary perspectives to explore where the concept and practice of love come from, where it is trapped, and where it is going.

Give an example.

When talking about love, we most often associate love with romance. Behind this lies a very familiar imagination of love: full of abundant desires and emotions, care and dependence on each other, and having the feeling of "being inseparable from each other." Intimacy and sweetness.

But this kind of love model is not people’s instinctive desire, nor is it the only one.

Taking movies and literature as examples, Dambao first decoded how the love imagination of "romantic love" is shaped: We learned imitations of love and those repeated rituals from mass media, and the education we received, The stories we read teach us to experience and express love through crying, hugging, surprise when opening the door, and kneeling when proposing.

But in this pursuit of romantic love, what have we gained?

It allows us to have emotions in ordinary life and indulge in them. It also easily allows us to escape from daily life and temporarily escape to a space that is only related to feelings and this person. It is also very easy to give people a sense of accomplishment. In love, when the other person needs you, it is easy for you to feel valuable.

Romantic love is like a sweet dream, like firecrackers, like fireworks. There are sounds and images, but it leaves nothing behind. Its essence is entertainment.

Because of this, love imagined in terms of "romantic love" and intimate relationships based on possession will always live under the pressure of "keeping things fresh" and the shadow of infidelity.

If you want to truly achieve happiness, it is very paradoxical. The first thing to do is to reject such "romance". No longer troubled by romantic love words, wake up from the dream and create your own form of love.

In these 10 courses, Dan Bao will lead everyone to "kill the dream of romantic love", to understand how we perceive love from the perspectives of literature, anthropology, history, sociology, etc., and to think about our pain in love. and how confusion occurs, see what kind of love words and fantasies we are trapped in, what relationship these pains and fantasies have with history and the times, and see what kind of history we stand in and what kind of future we are heading towards.

The most important thing is to talk about those ideals - for example, love like friendship, like-minded friendship; for example, embracing one's own vulnerability and bravely opening oneself to others; for example, it is happier to love than to be loved, to The possibility of collapsing boundaries. In an era of cynicism and life management, we want to use this course to shout out some somewhat "non-mainstream" love ideals.

I look forward to starting this little journey of love with you. I believe it will bring you a lasting impression.

[The following is the table of contents of these ten lessons]

【How to get this course? 】

This course topped the list of premium courses when Himalaya was launched in mainland China, selling more than 5,000 copies and receiving a lot of praise.

 I love Danbao so much, I am both satisfied and surprised.
Danbao talks about love, which is really good, although I often doubt whether this lesson can be sold. It emphasizes history and knowledge, and requires relatively high basic knowledge of the audience.
It triggers thinking from different angles and is suitable for repeated listening, with new feelings every time.

This time for Matters readers, the limited time discount price is: HKD 30. (Limited to one month, after which the original price of HKD 50 will be restored)

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In addition to "Love Lessons", Matters has launched three other quality courses:

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