ex boyfriend's shirt

I happened to see this hashtag #Record that piece of clothing#, it was like seeing the title of a narrative essay given by my teacher when I was a child, remembering an event that happened on the weekend, remembering two or three things in summer vacation, and remembering my most unforgettable day, the first reaction Yes: Oh, the title of a good old gun. But after Tu Lao Pao, I feel a little pantothenic acid in my heart, and I happen to have a piece of clothing that I have to write down to forget, although I sent it to the recycling bin last weekend.

It is a lapel shirt with a history of at least 3-4 years. The main body is light gray, and the two sleeves are light blue. The label of Metersbonwe on the lapel is slightly faded and has some hair marks. I don't know what dye it was dyed in. I didn't wash it after washing it many times, so it was almost bleached, but it would definitely bleach the clothes.

It was once exclusive to 180cm strong men, the clothes of my ex-boyfriend.

After the long-distance relationship broke up, he threw away all his belongings one after another, except for two shirts, a microwave oven, a pressure cooker, and a kitchen knife (well, make the best use of it, don't waste it, next time you move, it will be reserved for the current roommates ).

I wore this shirt for a long time after we broke up, it looked like half a year younger, but I don't know if I was thinking about him quietly in this way. Because this shirt also looks good on me, especially with a pair of super shorts, it's a "bitch" boyfriend style.

When I throw things, I will send a message to him to confirm, and I will send him what I need, otherwise I will throw it away, but there is no reply at all, which makes me feel embarrassed and the one who loses.

But I really want to be grateful for the 2 months or so at the end of 2018. The job was extremely unstable. Thank you for having him by my side. Even though I am still self-sufficient in material terms, I will not directly ask him for support because I want to save face. It is very strange. Asking some other friends to ask for money and gifts is naturally impossible, but facing the boyfriends at the time, there are many, many, and they can't open their mouths.

In March 2018, he was transferred from Beijing to Shanghai because of work, and he said that he would be transferred back in two months. As a result, he knew that there was no sign of going back to Beijing in October, and he did not agree with me to quit my job in Beijing and go to Shanghai.

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I feel that writing it down may become a "grievance woman crying history", but I never want to do such a thing, it is better to sort out the reasons why I dare to say that I broke up.

According to the general understanding, I am the so-called "licking dog", and I have been self-ignoring my needs to be seen, valued, understood, respected, and loved in the process of love.

Yes, it’s okay to ignore others, but I actually ignore myself and help others find the reason: he is too busy with his work, he will love me more in the future, he will make up for me, he has a last resort and does not experience suffering How can we work together for a lifetime, a good girlfriend should understand each other...

The explanation I gave to myself at the time was that he didn't want to come back to see me during the holidays, he didn't want to make phone calls, he didn't want to give me gifts, and he didn't want to spend more money and energy on me because I wasn't worth it.

Now it seems that I am almost dying of laughter.

I went to the coach's class two days ago. There is an aerobic exercise that involves kicking the coach's waist and abdomen. Although the coach has tied a waist protector, because I think this exercise is too offensive, I just called stop and replaced it with Other actions continue. I say stop, I refuse this move, not because the coach is too handsome, the coach lacks punches, the move is too difficult, unsightly, etc., but because I think it is an offense to others.

You see, a lot of times we do things and treat people not because of how the other person is, but because of who we are.

If you don't love it, stop it, and don't be together. This is the concept of my straight-minded little creature.

Don't call to stop, don't break up directly, but through ignoring, ignoring, and letting the other party's discomfort reach the limit before asking to leave, this is how he treats his girlfriend who he doesn't love.

I used to definitely learn something through my relationship experience, and it is shameful to apply it to the next relationship, so that the next relationship will not be pure, but full of "scheming". But now we will find that we are just through every experience, whether it is life experience or love experience, to recognize ourselves, to perceive the topics we need to learn in life, and don't give the same questions the next time The wrong answer may not be the right answer next time, but we can be wrong in another way.

Experience, experience, experience, experience, life is constituted.

So I am also amazed now, why I can ignore myself for so long, why I can disrespect my own thoughts for so long, and I dare not speak out directly because I am afraid of losing, and create an external standard of "good girlfriend" The appearance is really...too hypocritical.

Well, let's talk about clothes again, why throw it away?

Because the muscle gain has not been well controlled recently, the fat has grown too much and the shorts cannot be worn. This shirt is no longer necessary. No matter what, feel and respect your emotions.