Expression of mood: [I don’t want to continue to be a bad good person]

[ A person who doesn’t know how to refuse, all help is cheap ]

Today’s story of refusing to be a bad good guy (Part 1)

A while ago, I received a message from a friend asking me if he could give me a price for my gynecologist, and also asked if my doctor could help deliver the baby.

It turned out that her friend was pregnant. But because I respect personal privacy, I didn’t ask who the other party was, because she didn’t intend to tell me which friend she was.

I told my friend the name of the doctor and the name of the hospital.

This morning I received another message from a friend: "SL, can you call the hospital for me to ask about the birth plan? I need surgery to give birth, and also ask about the price of sterilization surgery."

I responded: "Ask your friend to ask it herself. Just call the hospital and ask the customer service. She should be more careful after asking it herself."

The friend responded: "If she had to ask herself, she would definitely say forget it."

OS in my mind: "What does that have to do with me? The body is hers, and the child is hers to give birth to! How difficult is it for an adult to take responsibility for his own actions? How difficult is it to call the hospital and ask questions by yourself?"

My friend responded: "Forget it, just pretend I didn't say it."

Some favors are really not worth doing

This incident reminds me of what Teacher Lai Peixia said: There are three types of things

1. My business

2.Other people’s affairs

3. God’s business

This was obviously someone else's business, so I deleted it

It doesn't matter if you blame me for being ruthless

I don't want to continue being a bad guy

Those who are willing to stay for me are close friends

I'm just filtering my circle of friends

This was obviously someone else's business so I deleted it

It doesn't matter if you blame me for being ruthless

I don't want to continue being a bad guy

Those who are willing to stay for me are close friends

I'm just filtering my circle of friends

Today’s story of refusing to be a bad good guy (Part 2)

I received a message from my friend E today

E: “hihi can borrow 500, give you back on Monday”

Translation: Hi, can you lend me 500? Return to you on Monday

This is not the first time this friend has borrowed money from me,

She paid back the money but was not punctual in her repayment.

I am a very trustworthy human being.

I still remember that she also borrowed 500 from me at the beginning of the year and said she would pay it back on 28/1.

But the date passed and I didn't receive anything back from her.

It wasn't until two months later that I couldn't bear it anymore and asked her for money.

Because of credit issues, I rejected her request today.

I don't want to be used as a cash machine by others, this is not a true friendship.

Every time someone needs help, they will think of me.

I was ruthless twice in a row today.

I want to shout loudly: I am brave! I bravely refused! My kindness is not cheap!

Today I did some self-reflection. Looking back on the past, I really responded to the demands of the people around me. It seems that there is almost nothing I can't do. It's not that I'm smart, but that I know how to explore on my own, and people around me are used to it. Sexually demanding ready answers from me.

Over time, I felt tired and my life seemed to be busy for other people. The friends around me always come to the Three Treasures Hall for anything. Whenever they suddenly come to me, it means they need my help with something.

I dare not refuse other people's requests because I am afraid that my friends will hate me and have a bad impression of me.

Having too much empathy is really not about seeing good things and sympathizing with others without any bottom line. I couldn't bear to refuse because I was pitiful.

Today I decided to make a change. I'm handing in my resignation letter from the bad guy.

Those friends who broke up with me because of my rejection didn't matter either.

Only those who are willing to accept the truest me are worthy of my good.