Sharing Xiaotiandi (5) "Draw a list of children's behaviors"

It's HAPPY FRIDAY again! Today my starling Xiaoli heard DJ Qiuyue from my MELODY radio station in Malaysia to share a theme that I think is quite interesting and that is [ Draw a list of children's behaviors ].

Parents may wish to try making a list of their children's behaviors to evaluate and reward . In my opinion, modern parents are harder and more challenging than old-time parents. The method of being born and raised is completely inconsistent with this era. Experts recommend making a list of all of your child's bad habits and good habits. For example, when a child is throwing a tantrum, you can put a [ crying face ] on the list with a red pen. When you are obedient and well-behaved, you can use a cyan/blue pen to draw a [ smiley face ]. After a week/month, parents can use a list to review with their children to see the smiling face vs the crying face, which one is more.

For busy parents, you can also purchase ready-made score tables online. The example is as follows:

Encourage self-discipline in children with rewards. This reminds me that in remedial classes in the past, teachers would also use this kind of small post (STICKER) to record our attendance rate. Every time you save 10 little star posts, you can exchange for a stationery. This really encouraged me, and every time I got a post, I would have an inexplicable sense of accomplishment. This method is very suitable for homeschooling or classroom.

This approach also encourages parents to look at their child's strengths/strengths rather than focusing on their child's weaknesses. This also reminds me of the "When I am a child again" shared by the shooter mommy Tingting yesterday, have we ever thought that we are too harsh on children? Adults can be imperfect, but everything requires children not to be like this or that.

Should we empathize? When we blame our children, do we ever think that we were once a child and made the same mistake. In the current situation, have we ever expected the response of adults and parents to us? Let me give you an example. If a child wets the bed, what would your first reaction be? Are you angry and annoyed why the child wets the bed again? The chores have increased again, and there are a lot of sheets and quilts waiting for you to wash, waiting for you to change. If we can calmly put our emotions aside at the moment, let’s first think about the fact that the child does not deliberately want to wet the pants or the bed. It's just a small mistake that you will encounter as you grow up.

My parents are using the whipping education style. I still remember in the past that as long as I didn't pass more than 80% in the exam, my mother would definitely be whipped. So every time I split the report book, I was filled with fear and stress. Don't even dare to go home. These invisible pressures will indirectly affect the psychological quality of children. Now I know that my parents' educational philosophy at that time was really wrong. A positive educational philosophy starts with you and me. Remember that there are no 100% parents, so you can't teach 100% children. Parent-child relationships require a lot of tolerance.

I hope my sharing today can give readers a little inspiration .

Look more at the advantages and less on the disadvantages.