Only when you become a director of a company can you be "respected"?

Having dinner and chatting with a long-time friend who is about my age.

He knows what he wants, is very responsible to his family, and is more interested in his own business. He lives a fulfilling life and has plans for everything.

Recently, he had an opportunity to be promoted to supervisor, but he turned it down after careful consideration.
In addition to the thankless work after the promotion, you will also lose your interest in spending time with your family and yourself.

If he is a young man in his 20s and 30s, it would be a waste not to accept such a challenge and miss a good opportunity to grow and learn. However, he is already a middle-aged man in his 40s.
As I said at the beginning, he knows what he wants ! He will not change his ideals because of a little bit of hindrance and temptation.

conceptual bias

At this time, his supervisor spoke: "You are at this age, and you are not a supervisor, aren't you afraid of being looked down upon by your children?"

When I heard this sentence, my friend, like me, was a little frightened and angry for a moment, but then changed his mind and felt sad and pitiful for the supervisor saying this sentence.

Is it possible to be looked down upon by others based on your status as a "supervisor"?

What an emptiness in the heart of this supervisor when he said this!

I hope you don't misunderstand here, the " supervisor position " is a unique position, and the title of the boss's ability to appreciate is definitely an honor and affirmation. I believe he may be referring to this aspect when he says "respectable".

The point is " Whether a person is looked up to, the position of supervisor is an option for bonus points, not a necessary condition! "

Whether a person is looked up to is a comprehensive personality trait of attitude, thought, knowledge, interpersonal, kindness, etc., and "title" is a plug-in condition for adding points, not the main condition.

Simple and easy to understand truth, I believe you and I understand it.

We don't think he's good because he's a "manager", but a "manager who completes a project task" or a "manager loved by his subordinates," etc., right!

However, some people who are dizzy or empty may not understand and cannot turn their minds around.

Don't you think that you are empty, have no achievements, and have no morals and popularity, and you can be looked up by people just by relying on the title of supervisor?

Article 2017.6.28
Addition 2022.6.28