Reading Notes "It's Okay, We Had Two Children" Still Not Convinced Two Years Later

Title: Fortunately, we had two children: Are you willing to quit your job and go home to take care of your children?

Author: Wang Peishun

Publisher: Love Your Children, Love Yourself

First of all, I will admit that I am quite determined to have only one child, and this has already changed from "not wanting to have" to "willing to have". Although I have a teaching background, I have never been able to say that I love children. Of course, when I really have my own children It's still a mother's love that breaks out and feels that her baby is an angel, but at most this kind of love will spread to the children among relatives and friends, and still won't particularly love children. Seeing that my mother and friends around me started to bring their second child one after another, I really felt that the picture of siblings having fun together is really beautiful, but do you want me to be born again? Thanks, get in touch again!

Now that you are so determined, why do you have to open this book "Fortunately, We Had Two Children"? Feeling the visible/intangible pressure around me, I think I still need to be more certain! It was with this mindset that I started this book.

Once again, the author who loves children bluntly stated that the purpose of this book is to persuade (at least) two treasures. If you, like me, hold the idea that an only child is enough, there will be many parts that make you feel irritable when you read it. Depressed, and even the view of the one-child family is a bit terrifying; but if you are wandering between life and non-birth, I believe that after reading it, you will suddenly be enlightened, and you can recommend the book to "resistance" to see if you can stop fighting. Dissolve easily.

Most of the people around the author only give birth to one, and the strategy of persuading them to live starts from the crisis of "negative population growth" that is often talked about, but there are two or three more precious moms around me! (After becoming a mother, I always wondered at the holiday park, "Is there really a population crisis?") And whether negative growth is good or bad for the planet in the long run is debatable. The "33 Reasons Not to Have a Second Child" in the first article almost extended to mothers' worries, economy, sense of achievement, family support, and the environment. Also quoted Mark Twain: "My life is full of misfortunes and disasters...but most of them never really happened." However, if it is so easy to convince yourself, I am afraid it must be "want to live" Will be strong enough.

The point of persuading the child to give birth to the second treasure is that the author mentioned that even if the only child can find a partner, his own child is still different from that of others, and his siblings do not need to cooperate with others when it comes to rewards and punishments, work and rest (but I quite agree with what she said: "Children only Divided into: their own children, and other people's children." Ha!); only children have to bear too much academic pressure and expectations from their parents, but it still depends on the parent's upbringing attitude; Erbao will be the lubricant when parent-child quarrels or low tides It will also be the best playmate and support for children to grow up with each other. In the end, this is the only thing that attracts me more (but I can understand it without reading the book), the child has company, and someone can discuss when there is an important matter... But, is it really impossible to find such a company from relatives and friends? I think this goes back to the concept of parenting, and there will always be like-minded families! At least for now, I am lucky to have many friends with similar ideas. I hope the friendship between the children will last forever.

It was not until two-thirds of the book "Don't Persuade Having Children" that the author got back on the right track: "With only one child, life can of course be very happy." In fact, no matter how many children there are, they will face countless different problems, and many more Problems cannot be solved more effectively with siblings. Therefore, if parents can afford it and have enough love, you might as well have more blessings, and understand that it is great to have only one child at your limit; no matter how many babies you have, parents have to fulfill their responsibilities and obligations. Duobao family Maybe the right to enjoy happiness is several times more, but for the only-child family, since they don't have it, what is there to envy? It is already the greatest luck to be able to guard the unique angel! If you are still hesitating whether or not to give birth, you might as well do some flipping, and there may be a more certain answer.

The above is what I got after reading this book two years ago. Now I read it again, and my thoughts are still the same. Even in the past two years, almost all my friends around Yibao have abandoned me to give birth to my second and third treasures~ I also feel that friends My child is very cute and interactive, but that's all, I don't feel the need to bring younger siblings to the kid at all; fortunately, my son is currently a child who can play and enjoy himself compared to his peers, " Having things you like and being able to be alone” , I think is far more important than “brotherhood” in a child’s life.

Especially recently, I finally bought a house. I feel very limited in space and budget. Coupled with the raging epidemic and frequent social incidents, the world that children will face in the future may not be very friendly, and it is not easy to survive. In addition, watching many family children grow up, Disputes arise because of a little money, gradually drifting apart and even turning against each other. Is it really better to have more siblings?

The predestined relationship for children should be reserved for families who want to be parents and can accompany their children well!