The first Chinese New Year in a foreign land💨

From childhood to adulthood, no matter how far away from home the whole family is or how busy they are at work, on New Year's Eve, they will definitely go home for a reunion dinner.

In November last year, because it was too late to book an anti-epidemic hotel, the return flight in February was changed to July. It was a bit sad at first, but later seeing the rising rate of confirmed cases in Belgium, I risked not being able to go back, so as not to cause trouble for everyone.

When I thought we should coexist with omicron last week, it turned out to be just a bargain-hunting figure. The highest day this week was almost 70,000. However, many people around me are still living their lives normally, eating out and not wearing masks outdoors. I think their hearts are really big. 🤣

Recently, I started to look back on the past six months, and found that I was far away from home, and my thoughts were slowly changing.

After getting married, I was terrified of going to my husband's house for the New Year, because I was afraid of facing a different way of getting along with my original family, but I had to participate in many things. One of the two things that bothered me the most was that my mother-in-law's usual excited tone when communicating with people always made me a little bit overwhelmed. The second is that he doesn't know his husband's relatives, he likes to use all kinds of emotional words, and he accuses him of not being filial when he goes home too often (I think it's because the husband is too good to be blamed, so he has no choice but to scold him) . When I first faced these emotions that only a "daughter-in-law" would have, I chose to be quiet. But I know that I have no heart, and I still care about the words and words used, the tone of voice, and the emotions that accompany them, so all I think about is how I can use civilized words to knock others down and make people feel ashamed. .

It was not until I lived here for half a year that I could talk to no more than 10 people (because of the epidemic, I didn't dare to go out) , and then I gradually understood why my husband's mother-in-law and relatives used this way of communication. The feeling is that you are separated from the situation and emotions of the person involved, and you can see things from the perspective of a third party. 🤣

So starting from this year, my husband and I have been calling home a lot more frequently every week, and we have also started to use Line to communicate some of our true thoughts. Faced with the emotional words of my in-laws, or the words urging the birth of a child, I can respond calmly, and tell us exactly how those words make us feel, as well as our specific plans and reasons for the future. After a few weeks, one day I suddenly found that my in-laws became more and more cute😆 The fear of being a daughter-in-law in my heart dropped rapidly😊.

I greatly promote Mr. Guo Yezhen's FB . Every time I see the teacher's post, I feel it! Another lesson learned!

Wishing everyone 🎊Happy New Year🎊