Discussion topic [Should obese people suffer from social discrimination + verbal violence? 】

Hearing a conversation at the company today inspired me to extend this article :

A male colleague : Hey, do you know why the new guy left after one day?

Female colleague B : I don't know, why?

A male colleague : Because she needs to walk too much, her mother must be afraid that she will lose weight!

Female colleague B : Hahaha, you are very bad, such a laugh!

A male colleague: Right! She must have been frightened by the perverted eyes behind her! Ha ha

When I heard the above conversation, my eyes rolled to outer space. Yes, there are many appearance association members in our company. As long as our company hires fat girls, they will definitely be teased behind their backs. If obese men are okay, the fate of girls is sadder.

On Monday, a new colleague came to the company. She was in her early 35s, with a fat build, medium-length hair, glasses, and a very polite talk. To me, she was a very cute girl. When she came to report on the first day, I expected her 'end'. But fortunately, she disappeared in just one day. Maybe she couldn't adapt to the environment here.

In fact, I will be very sympathetic to the experience of the obese, perhaps because of my sense of justice character. In college, there was a fat female classmate in the class who had been bullied by male classmates and teased her: Do you have a boyfriend? Did you know that I am your distant relative? I heard that XX likes you! I want you to be his girlfriend! When the male classmate finished speaking, the whole class would boo and laugh!

At this time, I will be the messenger of justice, and I often do contrarian things. Maybe that's what caused me to be so bad! At that time, I sat directly next to the fat classmate and became friends with her. The group homework also took the initiative to be in the same group with her to protect her from being laughed at and bullied. Now this female classmate has become my best friend. When my father passed away, she also specially attended my father's funeral. I will never forget this kindness.

I really don't understand why obese people, especially women, are naturally discriminated against by society and subjected to verbal bullying . He/she is just fat, they are not murdering and setting fire, not robbery and stealing, why should they suffer these unfair treatment. Is obesity a capital sin? Petite girls are indeed more popular than obese girls when looking for jobs and making friends. This is undeniable. But we shouldn't judge a person's quality by his body, ignore his talent!

Why are obese people given the derogatory adjective in advance: clumsy! slow! Sloppy! gluttonous! The society is indeed realistic and cruel. I often hear male colleagues criticize them like this: thin women with big breasts are sexy representatives with standard body proportions, while fat women have big breasts and no brains! I have a male colleague who despises obese women in particular. As long as he is traveling in a car, he will first hint that he does not carry fat friends. The reason is fuel consumption! ! He will also nickname the fat woman, called pork chop ! Otherwise it's a fat boy! Fat girl! None of these nicknames are missing. You can't say enough!

This phenomenon of verbal bullying of obese people not only occurs in the workplace, but also occurs frequently in schools. Especially coeducational. Children follow their parents as role models. If parents habitually use words to discriminate against obese people, they will surely follow suit. Especially in the developmental period of female students, physical education class will be particularly uncomfortable. Like my 15-year-old niece, not too fat but a little sensual. Now she starts to hate wearing tight T-shirts, because she can't accept the changes in her body, and the development of her breasts makes her feel inferior. She once complained to her mother that she was tired of having bigger breasts, she thought she was weird. I think parents must pay attention to instilling moral values and sex education in their children.

The first step must begin with parents as well as educators. It is important that children understand that development is a normal physiological process. The bodies of boys and girls also change as they grow. Of course, girls' body changes are more obvious than boys. The most obvious feature is the chest. During my school days, I found that many obese classmates hated physical education classes. They didn't like running, and they faced different eyes when jumping high. Boys should not laugh at girls with big or small breasts, especially female classmates who are rounder. Parents with daughters should also educate their daughters on how to protect themselves from harm.

Just be a heart-to-heart, just imagine how you would feel if it was your daughter, sister/sister, who was laughed at and bullied today? Can you still laugh? For me, the rounder person is more generous in his/her way of life. Perhaps it is because of social injustice, discrimination, and prejudice that a strong heart has been honed. You treat them well and they will pay you back double. They especially cherish their good friends.

Some people once made fun of me and said: Why are all your friends fat girls! Don't you have any good looking friends? so what? This lady is amazing! Miss Ben prefers to be friends with fat girls. She feels very safe and protected. Is it in your way? My fat girl friend also tried on clothes in a clothing store. The waiter didn't even look for the size and replied with disdain: Miss, we don't sell your size here! Just a waiter, does it need to be so hurtful to speak?

Can we change our position and think, what is the cause of their obesity? Is it a natural genetic inheritance, or it is caused by some health reasons, or a side effect caused by taking some drugs. do you know? If the female hormones are out of balance, or women who have long-term premenstrual syndrome (PMS) can also gain weight uncontrollably. Implant contraceptives can also lead to side effects of obesity. There is a greater sacrifice of postpartum obesity. Some even have bulimia caused by depression and anxiety.

Could it be that your wife chose to divorce because her body was out of shape after giving birth? Or did you give birth to a little fat girl and just abandon her? Adults, please think twice before you speak and act! Can you understand how much pressure and inferiority complex behind the smiling face of obese people? How many people choose no return because they can't bear verbal bullying and the tinted glasses of society? Isn't the life of a fat person a human life? So worthless and should be wasted?

Out this morning with the old man and his family and we usually talk and laugh in the car. Today's topic just looks back on the experiences and stories of old men when they were young. The old man's sister said that she was often called a fat girl when she was a child, which made her feel very inferior. This invisible pressure occurred during her elementary and middle school years. Today she confessed to us that she really had suicidal thoughts back then. The old man's mother was quite surprised and said to his sister: Why are you so stupid to care about other people's opinions? The sister responded: You can't understand the mood of the client, you really can't understand it. Those who criticize me are the closest elders around me, such as aunts, uncles, etc. But as the days passed, the criticism did not diminish. Over time, the wounded heart has gradually become numb, and only oneself can learn to let go. Rebuild long-shattered self-confidence. I really don't understand why you, as elders, are so ignorant? What's the point of hurting the self-esteem of the younger generation? If they really want to do something stupid, do you have a good conscience? At this time, I was very distressed for her, and it made me firm up my position. It was definitely the right thing for me to publish this article. I don't want to make the obese people around me feel wronged again.

Can we be more tolerant and caring instead of making fun of the obese people around us? Obese people not only face discrimination, but they also face many health hazards. Just like my brother who is also obese, he took over his father's funeral business because of his job. Busy every day from morning to night, working hours are 365 days, 24 hours a day, all year round, resulting in irregular meals. Did you know that irregular meals and breaks can also lead to weight gain? Then ask who can understand the bitterness behind their work. Not everyone has a working day of 9am to 5pm, with a lunch break of 12-1pm every day. Weekends are days off. If you have, please cherish this normal daily routine.

When my brother is busy, he can have breakfast, lunch and dinner as one meal. Sometimes it's midnight when I get home, I'm hungry, how can I not eat? He has also been criticized. A brainless elder once told me: Oh, I met your younger brother that day, why is your younger brother so fat and ugly! Didn't you tell him to lose weight? I was furious when I heard it! Stronger to hold back the tears. I feel sorry for my brother, because only we know the best he has done for the family. I never make fun of him, but I'm too worried about his health.

Many people are involuntarily. In order to live and work hard, ignore your own health for the sake of the responsibility on your shoulders. Eating well and resting well has become such a luxury . Like angels in white who worked hard for the people during the epidemic, who understands their physical and mental exhaustion? I hope this article can enlighten readers on another aspect. We should be concerned about the health of obese people around us , because obesity can cause many chronic diseases such as three highs: high blood pressure, high cholesterol, high blood sugar, heart disease, stroke and so on.

Let's treat our friends well together, shall we? No matter how tall or thin.

I hope my article resonates with everyone.

Obese people deserve to be treated fairly, loved and respected.

Let's put an end to bullying and verbal attacks on obese people together.