[Community Activities｜About Scars] Maybe many people have tried it and fantasized about being raped

Nov 29, 2021

Do not like it first! If you touch it, you will touch it, so many theories! I reiterate that fantasizing about being raped and gang-raped is usually a crushing reaction, so don’t think that you really like being raped!

This time I want to talk about the understanding of scars.

foreword

In 2018, the #MeToo effect made many feminists speak out, and some reports, news or articles pointed out that most women once fantasized about being raped and raped in their sexual fantasies... Sometimes, some women They may even think they really like being treated like this, leading everyone to think they have all kinds of unique sexual fetishes:

Australian feminist scholar Germaine Greer said: "The increase in sexual violence in TV dramas is because female audiences like to watch sexual violence themselves."
Nearly one-third of women frequently fantasize about being assaulted, according to research from the University of Texas;
Denise Mina, a Scottish crime novelist and playwright, believes that women fantasize about rape because they hope that "submission can be forgiven", and that women's fantasy of being raped does not mean that women really want to be raped;
Scottish crime fiction writer Val McDermid mentioned that women want to watch sex crime dramas because they see themselves as potential victims, and women watch crime dramas because they want to understand how crimes happen;
French writer Virginie Despentes directly stated that he was sexually assaulted at the age of seventeen. He emphasized that "fantasies of being raped" and "really raped" are different. The former is the interaction of shame and sexual desire. The effect, the emotions when you are really raped, is the sense of deprivation and fear...
Source: "One in three women often fantasize about being raped? Feminist Scholar: You Yourself Love to Watch Sexual Violence

Before starting this article, Ben must emphasize that real rape, rape play, and fantasy rape are two different things. If the role-playing of rape is carried out on the premise of mutual agreement, and the two gain comfort and pleasure from it, then Ben Xiong will not say much, and even think it is good. However, if one of the parties feels uncomfortable in the middle of sex, please stop all behaviors immediately, so as to prevent the beautiful sex from turning into a psychological shadow.

This time, Ben will try to use spirituality to explain what's going on.

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1. The Formation of Fantasy

According to the iceberg theory, people's thinking is actually influenced by the subconscious - and that is a common occurrence, so it is difficult for modern people to understand whether their thinking is influenced by the subconscious under the influence of habit . Ben Xiong once saw some people say: "I listened to those occultists about how the subconscious affects me. After listening to it for so long, I have never felt that the subconscious exists and affects me. If it does exist, ask him to come out and talk to me. Bar."

Sometimes I can't help but think: When he uses your body to talk to you, you have to recognize it and forget it.

The subconscious mind is a part of the body, and therefore naturally has the right to use the body, but they seldom do so unless the conscious - that is, in reality, we are in some danger, such as being hit by a car, etc. It is possible to step out to help offset the damage or try to control the situation. Ben Xiong met a customer. After being hit by a car, he heard a very clear "bang" sound. The driver immediately knew that something was wrong and got out of the car. Get up, tell the driver that it's okay and drag your pain-ridden body home. Taking this example as an example, on a spiritual level it would become:

Body was hit → consciously painful to coma → subconscious came to reality instead of conscious →
The subconscious mind confirms the physical condition → the subconscious mind drags the body home → the subconscious mind waits for the conscious mind to recuperate and takes over the body again →
The conscious mind wakes up → the subconscious mind returns to the subconscious world → the conscious mind takes over

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Maybe it is difficult for you to put the above process into reality, then you can think about why you can always get up and go to work when you go to work, and sleep until the afternoon or dusk on weekends... If you want to scientifically prove the above theory, you may have to rely on scientists To get to the bottom of how the brain actually works—not in a very generalized way, but in a very detailed, fully understood version of what all the cells in the human body do. Until it's done, I think psychology, spirituality, etc. still have to exist.

According to the above theory, it is concluded that fantasy is related to the subconscious mind. So, why does the subconscious mind give this illusion that it is easy to go astray or misunderstand one's own hobbies?

2. Soul wounds, scars

It's more of a deja vu than a fantasy! Generally speaking, this kind of fantasy occurs because of part of the trauma in the past (including past lives), which is related to the environment, climate, and even the people and things you know in reality. The situation is like a rheumatism attack when the weather changes - Chinese and Western medicine have different rhetoric, and this is the rhetoric of soul science.

Therefore, fantasizing about being raped is not so much a display of hobbies as a warning or a cry for help from the subconscious:

Warning: There are people in your life who have raped and hurt you in the past, please be careful;
Call for help: The pain of being raped and injured at that time still exists, please give treatment as soon as possible.

But if it's trauma, why get pleasure? In Ben Bear's life, someone once said:

"Fortunately, the human body can orgasm and get pleasure,
That would reduce the pain of being raped a little - albeit only physically. "

Perhaps the pleasure most women get when they fantasize comes from the insignificant "pain-relieving pleasure" at that time.

Finally, some people may ask: Why is it better to have no illusions about being raped when faced with ordinary sexual matters?

In fact, when the soul has been traumatized by sexual violence, the soul is afraid of sex most of the time, which is the main reason why people are less interested in ordinary sex; however, because the trauma is still there, the wound will be there The topics, pictures, and thoughts of rape and sexual violence crack and bleed, so people's feelings become stronger in front of this topic, and they are mistaken for full interest in sexual violence.

If people hadn't suffered too much pain and had not been treated in time, probably some people would remember those memories before they were alive, so they could clearly understand the true meaning of those fantasies, right?

Instead of being like Ben Bear, sometimes these fantasies or desires to see this type of work are born in my mind, and these ideas can't be shaken away no matter how much I move them. Looking back now, and having been interpreting my past life, I realize that I once had scars—disrespecting my life.

3. Healing

Since it was found to be pain, Ben Xiong strongly suggested that the soul be properly treated as much as possible, just to avoid sexual violence from continuing to appear in front of his eyes or in the people and things nearby—yes. A person's wounds and attracting corresponding people and things appear, so if a person is frequently exposed to or heard of sexual violence news, it may be a subconscious reminder of reality that we must deal with.

As for the healing method, Ben Xiong has the following suggestions:

Creating stories about one's own fantasies allows people to unconsciously express what the subconscious and soul recognizes. It can be said to give people who think they are "Muggles" a convenient shortcut to treat themselves. (This is one of the reasons why Ben Xiong has launched two digital reasoning activities .) Examples: @陈博車's short story writing-apprenticeship (40301) , or @鳳pens widenoodles Numbers make up stories 01810. I want to turn everything into thoughts after rebirth and some works that effectively interpret my own trauma (you can read Ben Xiong's message in the two articles).
Recording dreams or some incidents about sexual violence is similar to the above theory, but in the end, try to put the recorded things together into a story, the effect will be more significant. Example: Digital Reasoning written by @Conflict Girl | Use 68012 to make everyone care about domestic violence .
Deciphering Soul Fragments
In the end, it is like selling advertisements, but Ben Xiong highly recommends that everyone find a fortuneteller or a consultant who is suitable for themselves to interpret the soul numbers, such as me . However, this part will include paid services, so if people who are tight on money may be able to wait for the digital reasoning or interpretation of past life activities held by Ben Bear again, they may get some inspiration from it.