Record life l Roommates who don't get along with me

The last article mentioned that I am not very satisfied with my current residence. Most of the reasons are because I have some problems with my roommates. This is about my roommate.

I currently live with two roommates. Roommate L is the landlord, and roommate J is a friend the landlord has known for a long time.

Roommate L: Good personality, but a little too anxious

Roommate L himself is quite nice, very outgoing, and can talk about his own ideas. From his conversation, it can be found that he should be quite capable of dealing with different people, but he will feel that his seemingly "open" appearance is actually just a protective color. But that's okay too, and from time to time he cuts fruit or cooks small things for everyone to eat.

During the New Year, the water pipe in the toilet at home burst, causing the house to flood. In fact, this incident will affect the tenant downstairs. Roommate L feels unhappy. I can understand it. But after that, there were two more white patches on and outside the toilet in the home, which appeared to be a flood alarm or something. I think this method of prevention is doing a good job.

But in addition to that, there is an extra monitor in the house. Although the monitor was looking at the door of the toilet, when I was at home, I always felt like I was being watched by a pair of "eyes" in the corner. And the monitor can be rotated 270 degrees, so roommate L can monitor the situation at home anytime, anywhere. The act of installing the monitor made me think he was a little overly anxious. Although I still don't like this kind of behavior, I can only let myself get used to it slowly.

But on the whole, roommate L is still a friendly person, but maybe we are two people from "different worlds" at this stage, and basically the content of the conversation is only simple greetings. Maybe there is still no opportunity to get to know each other well!

Roommate J: He only judges others based on his academic qualifications, and treats others harshly with all kinds of double standards

Let's talk about roommate J. I think this guy should be in caps! As long as there is one "Lei roommate" at home, basically the entire rental life will be "ruined".

His vision is superficial. To him, it seems that "National Taiwan University" is everything. The first time we met, he first paid attention to my education. He would often say, "I think you're very good, after all, you graduated from National Taiwan University." Even Harvard and Yale, I don't think it's a big deal, so you can talk about it all the time, let alone just National Taiwan University. Moreover, he judges a person's "quality" only by "educational education", which I think is quite superficial.

The point is that he himself is studying for a PhD in National Taiwan University, and it feels even weirder to praise others with his degree in National Taiwan University. Because this seems to be praising himself in disguise, but it makes me feel that his praise is super insincere!

That alone made me feel a little disgusted with him. The most unbearable thing about my roommate J is that he has a tendency to "treat others with strictness and be lenient with self-discipline". I share the same toilet with him. One time I shaved on the sink and lost some beard by the sink, but I forgot to clean it. And he took the initiative to ask me to clean up after a while. However, he doesn't seem to be cleaning the toilets in the months I've been here. Mold on the toilet, urine stains on the floor, mildew on the walls, toothpaste stains on the sink, all I scrub. I didn't ask him to take the initiative, except that I was a little afraid of conflict, I also felt that cleaning would not take long, and I also had a share of using the toilet, so it was nothing to do me a favor.

Of course, I know it's my responsibility to soil the sink, but it feels weird to be asked to clean up by someone who doesn't clean the toilet. If he was cleaning the toilet, and then I soiled it, he came and asked me to clean it, and I accepted it without complaint. I can also understand that he was dissatisfied with the toilet that he worked so hard to clean, but it was dirty. But the reality is that he took absolutely no concrete action to maintain the cleanliness of the toilet, but he had the courage and no guilt to ask others to do it, which made me think what the fuck!

A while ago, it was my turn to take care of the floor of the house. At the time, I didn't think the floor was really dirty, so I just vacuumed the dust off, and then wiped off some visible stains. And I cleaned it twice that week, plus I double-checked the floor for hair, visible dust and stains, and litter. With my way of checking, even if the floor is dirty, it should not be dirty. But roommate J was critical and asked me to mop the floor because he said he saw some black stains on the floor. I was very upset, but I knew that according to the rules at home, the duty student responsible for cleaning the floor was to mop the floor every week, so I could only touch my nose to recognize it, after all, I did not follow the rules.

It's his turn to clean the floor this month, but this week the floor is called "dirty"! It was even more dirty than when he told me to mop the floor a while ago. I could only see more stains and dust than before, especially when there were "large" garbage such as masks and plastic covers for chopsticks lying on the floor. And this has been going on for several days. Then I just couldn't help asking him in a curious tone, "Huh? Haven't you cleaned the floor this week?" But he replied, "Yes," and continued to lie on the bed and scroll through the phone, as if he didn't want to. It means to clean up immediately. If I were to clean the floors this month, he would definitely ask me to clean up immediately.

I remember very much that when we first met and chatted, we mentioned that he was a person who didn't like to think about things. Moreover, from his behaviors like this, it can probably be concluded that he has a certain behavior pattern, which is that he will ask others to meet his expectations, while he can let go of his own "double standard" behavior. I can only say that I was unlucky to meet the kind of person I hate the most and become my roommate.

There is a gap between the ideal rental life and reality, and you can only adjust yourself

The family-style rental life I imagined should be very close to roommates. Occasionally after get off work, we can have dinner together and chat together. When I first met them, a few days before I started moving, I did see the two of them watching TV and chatting together in the living room. But this may only be temporary. After actually moving in, they discovered that they would invite friends to play mahjong at home almost every day. Because I don't know how to play mahjong, and I don't want to gamble, so I don't want to join the mahjong game at all, which also makes me at home, often like an invisible person.

Of course, I am also reflecting on whether it is because I occasionally close myself, and sometimes when I get home, I want to be locked in my room and be alone. Or they would spend the night at a friend's house when they were on vacation, so they might not have the chance to get to know me more. Therefore, I will also try to make myself appear in the living room in the near future, and then try to interact with them as much as possible!

Even though I still have a lot of things to get used to, I still tell myself: "At least part of the money they won at the mahjong table will be put into public funds, and the electricity and water bills at home can be slightly reduced." Probably the only good fortune living in this house!

Finished on 2022.04.05