Perth Diary Day 581, Do you still remember your original intention?

Opening the Little Red Book, there are all kinds of tricks that teach people how to become worldly, how to cater to their leaders, how to figure out the ideas of superiors, how to choose a partner, and all kinds of seemingly clever little tricks emerge in an endless stream.

I also know that if you don’t have a strong enough belief, you won’t have a strong enough discernment ability. Especially in our society where money is paramount, beliefs that cannot be cashed out in the short term will be ridiculed as being too simple.

I’m also thinking about what our original intention is. Maybe everyone has a different original intention, but I know that before everyone comes into contact with the dangers and evils of society, money is definitely not our original intention. Before we know that money can be used to buy When we have short-term happiness, which can be used to buy a luxury house or a luxury car, or to make ourselves look good, our original intention may be just a very simple wish, which is ridiculously naive.

It's just that after we enter the society, knowledge of current affairs seems to be the mainstream and maturity. As we watch the lives of those who flatter them get better and better, less determined people begin to move closer to them, hoping to get a piece of their network.

When I first remembered, I blamed my father for not learning from others, being more aware of current affairs, promoting his official position to a higher level, and improving his life. I can’t remember my father’s answer, but when I grew up, when I After discovering that I also have the same characteristics of dealing with people as my father, even if I don't remember my father's answer, I can already answer for my father.

I think that the values ​​​​in the three views are especially deeply influenced by the parents in the original family. If the parents are kind people, the children will not be evil to any extent. For example, if the parents are very good at looking after others, in the officialdom , People who are able to do a job with ease in the business field, almost all of their children grow up to be as good as their parents.

Of course, what I mean by "living well" here refers more to material life than inner happiness. Now I can see through people's hearts through some external superficial things. Is there really anyone who is willing to flatter others? , Is there really someone who can do things according to his own inner thoughts, and can be slick in all directions? Such a person does not exist at all.

Each of us is selfish first. When you take care of your own emotions, you cannot take into account the emotions of others. When you take other people's emotions as the main object of care, you will not be the happiest in your heart. Of course, there are also , when a person's ideological level rises to a certain level, he is happy with the happiness of others. However, such a person's external behavior must be polite, have a sense of distance, and know how to prevent himself from losing more than the bottom line. In order to facilitate people, this way of doing things is very different from our common interest exchange.

Human beings are first of all selfish, and talking about altruism on the basis of negating this truth must be concealing an ulterior secret.

Based on this truth, you can begin to screen the people around you to which level of thought they belong.

Although I haven't really met him in life, I am convinced that such a person exists, and I am using this creed to guide myself to become such a person.

Those excellent values ​​​​that are deeply rooted in our bones from our original family form our original intention. You are a kind-hearted person who is willing to help others, or a person who always treats others sincerely and without defensiveness. The negative characteristics of excellent qualities are: It may allow us to gain short-term rewards by walking in society, but it may make me lose my original intention and go further and further until I can no longer find what kind of person I once was.

When you habitually flatter others, navigate social relationships with ease, and receive generous rewards, it will be difficult for you to return to a state of not flattering anyone. But when you have always been confident and self-sufficient, and you can meet others in society. Your body is full of wounds, but it may make your heart gradually become stronger, start to find your own way of survival in your original intention, and finally gain inner peace and a more sustained sense of happiness. This is actually the shortcut to happiness. .

What kind of person suffers the most? I think it’s the person who doesn’t know what to do to make himself truly happy from the inside. This pain cannot be filled with external content.

I remember when I was working in Beijing in 2015, there was a son-in-law in my circle of friends who was married to a second-generation military man. He was running his own business. From what I knew about him, he was an upright person, but at the age of 27 As I began to understand the business environment in real society, I began to think that it is difficult to have big business prospects with integrity. After all, when most of your customers only ask for benefits, you cannot meet their requirements. Integrity It will only make it harder for you to survive. He told me that he is actually screening his customers, who are not the same type of people, and he would rather not do business with them.

At the time, that statement made a huge impression on me, although I'm not sure he actually did business the way he said.

But when I started to run my own English school, create my own public account, and attract people who have similar views to me to encourage each other, I always thought of this sentence in my mind.

What I can confirm now is my own original intention. I will never use money or interests as my goal and direction in doing things. For friends who don’t have any common topics in three views, unsubscribing from my official account is actually a screening process. The parents of English schools mainly come from those who have followed me for a long time and trusted me. Because they share a common philosophy, their way of educating their children is also full of persistence in their beliefs. Those parents who are introduced from other agencies , you can clearly feel the difference in how they behave.

In fact, I have always recorded my way of living in Australia in previous articles. I have experienced almost no income for three years during the epidemic in the Philippines, but I still have not changed my original way of living. My thinking has greatly improved. My persistence in belief has also been greatly strengthened. The content of support work I did in Australia is no longer like the manual labor on the farm in the first year. Almost all the content of support work I do now is based on my skills , take the people I am helping to swim, exercise, and exchange life and insights with them. This is the way of survival that I gradually found after awakening.

But it is difficult to find such a support client object even in time, because most of the clients are looking for simple manual labor and caregivers for their lives, so the hourly wages they can provide are also very low, and I am Under the guidance of my original intention, in the process of interviewing with customers, I also looked at the service methods that customers want. Gradually, I also accumulated seven customers who know my value, and such customer groups are like me. Like the parents of my English school, the cooperation with me is more continuous.

Now my weekly working hours have started to exceed 20 hours, and my income has begun to approach $1,500. I think this is the result I have always insisted on, and finally got what I want.

With the original intention in mind, it is always very difficult at the beginning, but after getting through the early difficulties, you will follow your heart and find a way of survival that suits you best, and live happily in a way that makes you physically and mentally happy.