On the 432nd day of Perth Diary, let’s talk about the awakening of personality

Recently, I would like to combine my observations of the Australians around me after living in Australia for a year, and my recent deeper understanding of a good friend’s life experience, in a random way, to talk about what most people may encounter in personality awakening question.

Life has its own variety, everyone's life experience is completely different, but if we pay attention, we can learn the same truth from our different life events.

I think there is a concept that we need to recognize, that is, even though each of us is eating and sleeping, the time we spend on thinking is different. Some people no longer want to think when they are busy. If they think too much, Without the power to change, people are indeed more troubled. But if he has the ability to think and the power to change, the life of this person will gradually distance himself from the lives of others.

Just like, some people don’t like to see a doctor. If they see a doctor and find out that they are sick, it will bring a lot of changes to their current life. Whether they see it or not, it costs a lot of money and has a huge impact on real life. If you don't read it, you can still live step by step.

I think this is the state of life of most people. Heart disease is also a disease, a more serious disease than the body.

So the habit of thinking and the ability to act will gradually divide us into people of different levels of thinking. You have to admit this, otherwise why the same thing can have completely different effects on different people, and setbacks make some people Sinking, but let some people become more and more courageous.

After laying the groundwork for a lot, let’s talk about the awakening of personality.

Perth Diary, Day 262: On the Two Awakenings of Life

I once wrote about the topic of life awakening. After that, I began to see the living conditions of the people around me more clearly.

The first level of personality awakening is about your life only need to focus on you, don't care about the awakening of others.

This level is especially difficult for the vast majority of Chinese friends, because we have been taught since childhood to respect the old and love the young, to let Kong Rong give in to pears, and to care about other people's feelings.

This kind of education makes most of us care more about others than ourselves. Premature education in traditional culture makes us want to pretend to be noble people, but people who don’t care about their own feelings cannot be sublimated into noble personalities. , when we are still seeking attention and gaining approval from others, it is difficult to follow our inner feelings.

The growth environment of most of us is like this, which makes it extremely difficult for us to obtain the first level of personality awakening, because it completely excludes the condition required for the first level of awakening, caring about ourselves more than others.

But this kind of education also has a good side. If this person is kind, then it will be easier for her to obtain the second level of awakening after the first level of personality awakening, and find the connection between herself and the world, because she has been educated since childhood Take care of others, so it is easier to enter the role of altruism.

But the awakening of life at the first level is destined to be the resistance that restricts the growth of 90% of the population. After all, it is equivalent to the rebirth of thinking for everyone, and the realistic resistance to be faced It's too big, and the older you are, the heavier the price you have to pay, and it will be unacceptable for most people to make many people reflect on their past life not being in the right direction.

I have lived overseas for nearly four years. People in the western world pay more attention to individual feelings. For most people, we will feel that they are very selfish. It is true that what comes to us is really only thinking about ourselves, and less for ourselves. For the sake of others.

But it is a pity that selfishness is written in the genes of life. Only after an individual fully selfishly recognizes individual needs can he deeply understand the needs of other individuals. If this person is kind, then she will have the opportunity It is the sublimation of thought to gain selfish pleasure from helping others.

This is the awakening of the second layer of life, it must be after the awakening of the first life, and it must be catalyzed by kind personality characteristics.

Go through the three philosophers of Greece and Romain Rolland's philosophical system, and you will find that they evaluate the character of kindness more than all others, because kindness is the driving force for a person's growth.

Many people have low self-esteem, but they don't know that their kindness is your greatest advantage, and it can only play its greatest role when you are strong enough to break free from the resistance in the real environment.

Where does a strong heart come from, and it is gradually shaped from the process of breaking free from resistance.

The European and American world is a simple world, and the hardships of life are much less than ours. Many people are about to break through the first level of personality awakening just by fully satisfying their selfish happiness.

Therefore, the proportion of independent personalities in European and American countries is much higher than the proportion of independent personalities who grew up under the oppressive culture in Asian countries.

But they lack the many hardships that we have. As mentioned above, suffering and setbacks can strengthen a person's heart.

In the local area, I know some western-style children's growth environment, and cultivate them only to follow their own inner feelings. Here, every individual is an object of respect, even if you are a minor, so the teenagers here are so impressive. Headaches, they don't need to pretend, just do what they think will make them happy.

Children who have grown up in traditional Asian culture can see a timid restraint and a heart that dare not express themselves.

But caring about the opinions of people around you does not mean wanting to help others, but wanting to gain appreciation by showing other audiences the behavior of helping others. The ultimate goal is still the opinions of others.

For many people, once there is no audience, there will be no direction in life, so being alone will bring many people back to their hearts, which will lead to the awakening of the first layer of personality. Unfortunately, most people Avoid loneliness as much as possible, which will make many people lack the opportunity to awaken.

Many people live under the shackles of their original family all their lives, while others cut off this relationship, gain the awakening of their own lives, inherit, improve and shape their own personality characteristics. Then, according to the sufferings experienced in one's own growth environment, driven by kindness, one obtains a unique altruistic thought based on one's own painful experience, which can help others avoid the pain one has encountered, and obtains an interactive relationship with the people around. This is the awakening for the second layer of life.

This logical relationship is my perception of growth, and I have also been verified by many philosophical systems. Readers can also see which stage they are currently in, and use it as their next growth direction.

If you want to have a meaningful and valuable life, you need to push yourself to grow, otherwise when the pressure of the environment pushes you, it will be too late, it will never be too late, but there is always a time point.

Perth Diary Day 23: How to define the next step of life-changing direction

Remember, you don't need to compare horizontally with anyone around you, and you don't need to pay attention to what they think of you. You only need to compare vertically with your past. This is the key path to gain the first awakening of life. And the way forward is to always have the courage to overcome your known deficiencies.

In many cases, we don't need to pay attention to who the help comes from. As long as this concept can help us achieve a happy life, please feel free to use it.

The greatest value of thought is that it can be passed on, and then passed on from you.