Perth Diary 407th Day: Happiness is what you get

I have been wanting to buy a four-wheel drive recently, so that I can go camping on the beautiful northern coastline of Perth. I took a test drive yesterday, unlike most people who want to own it after the test drive. Instead, I began to reflect on it. Owning a car is like this Bar.

Whether it is a luxury car or a mansion, I think it is still impossible to equate life and happiness.

Overseas, I have seen too many people marry people who don’t love or even communicate with people for an identity, so Asian girls are crowned as easy girls. The older grandpas here see young and beautiful Asian girls like It is too common to look up and down like a scanner and strike up a conversation.

I have seen a lot of people who are desperate for their status, and I have seen a lot of people who are still unhappy after getting their status. After all, status cannot be equated with happiness, and getting an status does not give people a real sense of inner security. , After all, people who were born in the local area are not happy, and there are many people who do unsatisfactory jobs.

People's desire to get something may be the killer of happiness.

Parents who cannot control their own lives try to control their children's lives in vain, and regard their children's early achievements as a show off and performance of their successful life.

Those who cannot face the loneliness in their hearts alone, and those who can obtain happiness with the company of love, have never adjusted the focus of life to spending time with loneliness.

A wife who cannot gain a sense of security in life tries to control the financial power of the whole family and does not give her husband any possible opportunities. Does such a "sense of security" really make people happy? Great power means a faithful husband.

Speaking of which, I used to be the kind of person who had to do my best to get what I wanted, but gradually I began to realize that any thing I want can only be obtained through my own efforts, and anyone can get it with the help of others. All things are in vain, it is an extravagant hope that is completely beyond the scope of my control, so I gradually focus all my efforts on my own changes.

You must get what you want, but the way you work hard has changed.

Later, I began to slowly free myself from the torment that must be obtained. The first key that helped me start to relax during free diving. Some things cannot be obtained by hard work, such as the process of fighting against the sea when becoming a coach.

I started to learn to wait.

Later, when I encountered the blockade of the epidemic while camping on the island, I not only learned to wait, but also learned to wait for the arrival of the last moment at every moment. Every sinking is to gain momentum for rising. I learned In order to encourage myself in the trough, any setbacks are used to sharpen myself, waiting for the last moment to see the sun again.

This has completely released my previous mentality that I must get what I want. I am no longer as utilitarian as before. I feel happiness more easily.

Material things, luxury cars and mansions, the incentives for people’s happiness are always limited. In the end, no matter how beautiful the luxury car is on the road, you will always return to the deserted mansion in the end, facing your heart alone and what is the purpose of living? The torture of the meaning of life.

The control of the child will eventually have to face the gradual maturity of another personality individual, with his own thinking, the ability to live independently, and the ability to resist constraints, leaving behind parents who are at a loss and lose their focus in life.

Constraints on the other half of life will only wait for the other half to awaken and be unbearable in the end. If the other half has not awakened, then a person who has not awakened and cannot give full play to his life potential will not be able to bring you the most inspiring life partner. role.

The longing for love, I think, is the only pursuit that should accompany a person's life, but the focus of life should not be on the road to finding love, but on the process of self-improvement, encountering love unexpectedly, being a When the wonderful love comes again, just be ready to experience it with a young heart. Maybe this is another false love, and it is just a tempering for your growth.

But life, isn’t it just experience, happiness is extracted from experience, and self-defined happiness is experienced in the meaning of life given by oneself.