Perth Diary 318th Day: Cognitive Changes, Changes in Life

Schopenhauer mentioned: I used to think that if you write well, write well, play well, or have specialties in one aspect, you are talented. It was later discovered that the awakening of the soul, the sublimation of thoughts and the independence of personality are the real talents.

Two days ago, I taught mike, a client with eye disease, after swimming, lying in the spa pool, looking at the dense trees outside the window, I fell into infinite contemplation, why am I lying in a remote corner of a country in the southern hemisphere today, helping a People who need help are doing the sports I like and earning an hourly salary of $52. Although the future is still uncertain and the income is unstable, they feel extremely peaceful in their hearts.

All because of changes in cognition, and changes in behavior guided by cognition.

A few days ago, I sent a message in the group of graduate students, lamenting that everyone has graduated for ten years. My friend asked me when I would return to China. I replied, for me, freedom is the most important thing.

Some friends were displeased and retorted, as if I was accusing other people of not being free. Isn't it true that what you want to say cannot be expressed, and you cannot work in a stable system before expressing the infinite possibilities of life. Isn't this a free expression?

As adults, many people's self-defense mechanisms become very strong, as if the deviant behavior and thoughts of others are their own criticism.

This is the limitation of cognition. The first reaction of many people is to start defending their choices, instead of facing their inner doubts with a more open mind.

Recently, more and more friends have come to me for psychological counseling. I am very glad that I have the opportunity to give my advice when others are confused.

The effect that one life can play on another life is the role of encouragement, and this effect can only be effective when the sharer himself practices it. This is why many psychological counselors cannot really encourage patients, but personally Practice your own experience, and the biggest beneficiary will be yourself.

Most of my friends, or almost all of my friends, come from their own lack of self-confidence. I think inner self-confidence is actually a common problem. It’s just that when this level of self-confidence is in a situation that limits one’s access to personality independence, Blocking personal growth is fatal.

Whether it is doubts about one's own ability to survive, or doubts about solving unknown difficulties in the future, one will be trapped in one's own position, unable to take the next step in life's growth, and even suggest malicious rebuttals to others' good intentions .

The happiness that more people perceive is found in the sense of superiority compared with others horizontally. If they appear to be inferior to others, they will fight back. Therefore, there are also many famous sayings, don't meddle in other people's lives and so on.

Everyone only needs to pay the price for their own cognition, but if you really meet someone who wants you to live a good life, if you haven't seen it, it doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

Some friends in the group said that I will be disappointed by others, but I am always optimistic to find more people.

Not particularly accurate, I can only feel sorry for a life that has nothing to do with my life, not disappointed, which is what I learned on the island, even facing a person who deliberately hurts you.

The cognition of many of us is based on the cognitive level of our parents, and our parents are limited to the circle of friends with similar cognitive levels, so our surroundings are also in a state of similar cognitive level. The behaviors of different people seem to us to be deviant, but we don't think that the infinite possibilities of life lie in the variety created by countless deviant.

From different life experiences, we will finally learn the same philosophy of life, pursue freedom, make up for our own shortcomings, and be full of courage to look forward to the next challenge to shape the individual. With the gradual strengthening of the soul, we will find our love and give it to us The sense of meaning in one's own life grows happily in this sense of meaning.

Each of us is a blank slate when we are born, and we go through a completely different time when we reach the last step. Some people are limited by their parents' cognition and repeat the same life as their parents. This is a kind of sadness, because It has not created its own personality characteristics, so it cannot be called its own life, but a continuation of life under the thoughts of parents.

Some people truly face their own confusion and are willing to believe that others may help them, while some people always guard their happiness based on their sense of superiority, for fear that they will lose their sense of superiority if they reveal their hearts to others.

How I wish that when I graduated from college, I could meet the person I am today, and give me a piece of advice about life, sex, work, relationship with parents, and the future of life, but he disappeared, so I had to write down A letter to him, to those tens of thousands of me who are in the same state.

This is a letter written to me more than ten years ago (part1/3)

This is a letter, written to me ten years ago (part2/3)

This is a letter, written to me ten years ago (end of part3/3)

If the whole world knows your cowardice and can help you get out of the predicament and achieve happiness, then it’s good to announce to the world, because each of us only needs to be responsible for our own life, as long as other people’s suggestions are 1% possible for us The benefits should be put to good use.

We can regard all the people around us as our opponents, crush them with happiness shaped by a sense of superiority, and then feel lonely and tired.

Or treat everyone around you as those potential helpers to help you grow and pursue your inner peace and happiness.

This is a huge gap in cognition. The former can never learn the cooperative relationship, but the latter can easily find the connection between himself and the world.

I still remember this girl who started crying within ten minutes of my consultation, and after an hour and a half of communication, wrote a summary covering almost what I have learned in the past 30 years, making me proud, if she can pass this path Going on, that is my link relationship with the world.

Life Lesson, Become a Life Coach Helping Others

Perhaps your doubts at this moment are the result of my painstaking efforts.

I hope to find you who seek help, let you stand on the shoulders of my cognitive growth in the past, and pursue your own happiness. This is the trace I want to leave to the world.

Finally, Plato's question remains: Friends, is it not shameful that you are so indifferent to wisdom and truth, and so indifferent to the best interests of the soul?