Perth Diary Day 305: Solitude, at Christmas

From hating loneliness, to habitually being alone, to "enjoyment" of loneliness should be accompanied by a progressive psychological process, and the perception of loneliness is sublimated with the process of inner strength.

Human beings are social animals, destined to find their own value in the collective, but before a person really finds the process of perfect unity of his passion and this value, he hopes to obtain the approval of others.

To obtain this sense of recognition, many people and the general social environment give people the misunderstanding of the accumulation of wealth. Many people think that when they are rich, they will be looked up to by others, and many friends will gather around them.

But if a person is still obsessed with being surrounded by stars, it is enough to show that the person is not yet mature, and it is not clear enough to see what the focus of the people around him is.

Maybe it's because you are useful, maybe it's because they themselves are afraid of being alone. Considering the uniqueness of each person's thoughts, it is unlikely to be the attraction of thoughts, at least the parties should not enjoy the feeling of being surrounded.

This involves the enjoyment of solitude mentioned below.

When a person's heart is not strong enough, or when he can't accept his inner torture alone, he needs to rely on each other in a group to reduce his sense of responsibility, but group activities will eventually end, and a person's solitude is life In the end, it is necessary to return to the state of facing one's heart.

This point is a huge difference between the life under the influence of culture in the Asia-Pacific region and overseas life. Of course, it does not mean that there are no social activities in foreign countries, and there are no people who cannot accept loneliness. It is just that the humanistic environment in foreign countries is that interpersonal relationships are less important. Personal life is bound, so the proportion of people who pay attention to their inner needs is higher than that in China, and the proportion of people who develop their own unique hobbies on this basis is higher. If you spend a long time alone, it will be easier to form an individual who values yourself. The proportion of people who can accept loneliness is relatively higher than that of people in the Asia-Pacific region.

Many people live overseas and cannot accept the beautiful mountains and rivers outside and the loneliness. They retreat to their familiar interpersonal circles. In fact, they just cannot accept the questioning of what they want in their hearts when they are alone.

And habitually alone, it is easy to give a life a chance to strengthen the heart, not to care about other people's views, the expectations of the society, and to find one's sense of meaning and mission in life along one's own enthusiasm. Without enough exploration of the possibilities of life and the support of a strong heart, it will be difficult to achieve.

Because each person's life experience, way of thinking, and family influence are different, although the sense of meaning found under the philosophical category should be beneficial to the collective, the entry point found by each person may be different.

This leads to different interests, different visions, and different methods for improving society, so it is almost impossible to find someone who can fully understand you.

This forms the theoretical basis for enjoying solitude, precisely because you cannot find someone who fully understands you, so proving that you are unique, you should enjoy your unique solitude.

But a person still longs to be recognized. Although the sense of recognition from one's own heart is the most important, one also longs for the recognition of another life. I think this is where the 'enjoyment' in enjoying solitude is difficult to understand.

Finding someone who can fully understand you is already a luxury, so how can you demand complete approval? This should be a luxury.

Social activities are naturally necessary, but if they constitute the main source of self-identity and become an excuse for avoiding the inner torture of one's real needs, there is still a long way to go before inner growth.

Loneliness is a carnival of one person, and carnival is the loneliness of a group of people.

My Christmas, apart from running ten kilometers as usual, there is nothing else to say.

I also recorded a video with my wife today, and it will only be released on youtube in the future. Welcome everyone to subscribe. Finally, I wish everyone merry christmas.