Perth Diary Day 228: The harder the poor work, the poorer they become

I won't spoil the movie, I recommend everyone to watch it.

This movie reminds me of: poor people, the harder they work, the poorer they become.

The first poverty is cognitive, the second poverty is material level, happiness level, everything.

A family cannot escape the education of children, the relationship between husband and wife, and most importantly, the balance of family and work.

Once, before I started to touch these issues, I figured out that in this environment, I could not balance work and life: Although I changed five or six jobs, I began to realize that in a company that does not respect people and relationships In an environment where people respect each other, everyone's life cannot be guaranteed, and everyone is a slave to a superior.

What's more, no one is spared, when all human relationships, mutual respect, happiness levels are forcibly tied to the material queue, on the train where everyone is bound to the material. A pawn at the feet of someone richer and more powerful than himself.

I just figured it out, this is not the life I want.

Being unmarried and without children, I also figured out that if I don't have time to spend with my family and children in the future, even when unfortunate things happen to them, I'd rather not start a family.

Seeing that my classmates and friends have gradually found jobs in 996, I spend less and less time with my children every day. Even if I bought a new house with a loan, I can only live for one day a week, and I have to rent near the company for the rest of the time. I just sigh. Is this the end of life we have worked hard to graduate from 985 colleges for more than 20 years?

Those students from well-off families would not choose such a company at all, nor would they even choose an IT industry like ours. The life of collecting rent for a dozen houses is a material life that the working class will never be able to catch up with.

There is also the education of children. When most people are working hard, trying to build a good childhood for their children, and hoping to work hard for a few more years to save a suite for their children, I am thinking that children cannot rely on him. Why don't we work hard on our own? We grass-roots families rely on our own efforts to finish the master's degree. If you don't have time to accompany your family and children, the children's education will be unbalanced, and no matter how much money you earn in the future, you will have no chance to grow up. The saplings are broken back in the right direction, and letting grandparents spoil their children through intergenerational education is the biggest bane of middle-aged life in the future.

When I shared these thoughts with my hard-working classmates and friends, everyone complained and returned to the life trajectory that most people seem to have no choice.

And I seem to have seen the fate of most people's lives.

I can't accept myself to live out the wrong life I've figured out, which, in my opinion, will be the starting point for many wrongs.

Many people will also say that there is no place to be spared. I don’t know if they have searched for it in person. Even if they did, I don’t believe that such a thing will happen to me. I don’t believe in fate.

I lived without income for four years when everyone was trying to make money, it wasn't that I had a lot of savings, I just minimized my material needs to the point where I couldn't go any lower, but I I found that the more I have the courage to lose, the more I gain, and the more I grow mentally.

Russell said it well: the more you lose, the richer you are: because the mind creates what you lack.

Russell also said: I submit to reason, for which I can sacrifice my friendship, my hatred, and my life if necessary.

On this road, I have achieved an unimaginable ideological improvement. After three years of thinking, I finally began to temper the doubts in my previous life into firmness, which is the most precious wealth in my future life.

When I look back at the environment I used to work hard and leave with all my strength, when I stand in the distance, I finally see its face more thoroughly. This is also the original motivation for me to do a lot of things now.

A lot of what I do is not to prove me right and I don't benefit from it. A lot of people don't need to hold back to prove they didn't do anything wrong, and you won't lose anything because of a change in your direction.

Many people will say that even life abroad is not a paradise, with the same situation, but those who say these words ignore two important factors that affect life, the external environment and a person's gradually mature and firm heart.

The poorer, the harder they work, the poorer they become. In many cases, direction is more important than effort. I have heard this from some well-known figures in China more than once. I just heard the subtext that they cannot speak directly.

The times do not allow them to use words that everyone can understand. This is the different world seen at the cognitive level.

When everyone is still concerned about their children's education, shouldn't their own life be more important than their children's life? What kind of people will put their own happiness in the second place, and even hope that their own happiness will be built in Another person who has given up on his own dreams and the courage to pursue it, on top of the success of an independent thinking life body.

Finally, I would like to quote Russell's words to wake up those readers I care about: fatalism is an excuse for the weak who lack willpower.

Effort is important, but when you're in the wrong direction, it just takes you further from being right.