020 | Dealing with "Ownership Anxiety"

This article is "less is better" after reading, dedicated to you who "want to have more" .

At 30, what do you have that you didn't have when you were 20?

How many of them do you really want to have?

How much of it is there that you "have to" have?

How many of them are things that become "very troublesome" after "owning" them?

How many people, like me, start to suffer from "ownership anxiety" at the beginning of the three words. That is, the death cycle of "wanting when you don't have it, worrying more when you have it, and constantly pursuing what you don't have" ...

I, who started with three words, have recently started thinking about "subtraction" .

Because I know that life is about constantly pursuing better things, I don’t want to end up like this. Because I know that this is the truth, the so-called human beings will inevitably seek to have more to offset their insecurities, so I want to remind myself "don't become like this" .

A bigger house, a better car, a higher salary, a better partner, better friends, more money, a freer life. The result of these accumulated "more" is likely to be "less happy life" . Of course there are people who can have more and be happier, but I think the average person will be about the same as me, and having more will become more anxious.

For ordinary people, having more means "controlling" more things, and then expending more energy to maintain their circle of control. In the end, he became devastated, and was chased by "possessed" for the rest of his life.

"Less is Better" introduces Essentialism . Essential is the meaning of "necessary, necessary" in English, that is, "no death" . Conceptually, it is a bit similar to "minimalism" , but with more thinking about "active choice" . That is to ask everyone to actively think and choose, what is necessary for them?

When I'm thinking "what is necessary" , what do I think about?

What can make you truly happy?

For me: sunshine, plants, freedom , let these happy things surround me. Happiness is a "choice" , and there is a "good side" in every little thing.

Getting along with people can help you gain nutrients, and only interact with these people as much as possible.

For me: a positive, optimistic, responsible person , someone who can be motivated and encouraged .

How much money do I need to live a free life? And plan your finances with this goal in mind.

Annual consumption of 10W New Zealand dollars, wealth freedom goal is 250W New Zealand dollars.

What am I working for now? And take this goal as the only motivation for work.

Guarantee certain living conditions and enjoy a certain degree of freedom.

Is love really necessary for me?

It is not necessary, I want to practice the ability to "live well alone" .

There are still some questions that are still unanswered:

• If I only did one thing for the rest of my life, what would it be?

• If I don't think about money, what will I do?

• What is my life mission?

(It doesn’t matter if there is no answer, I plan to continue living with doubts 😄)

Recently, I feel that I have been being chased by the "calendar" . The reason is that I find that I have been occupied with too much time and energy by the "must do (I do)" things. Although the daily schedule is very full, once you are free, there will be a feeling of "anxiety" and "panic" . So I plan to reduce the things I want to do , reduce the number of things I want to do as much as possible, and increase the things I want to do to meet the minimum requirements of my life. At the same time, I do not give up thinking about my own Life Mission" , try more things that you "want" to try. This is how I try to cope with "possession anxiety" as an ordinary person.

May everyone become a better version of themselves and gain peace and joy.

You are also welcome to share your own ways of coping with anxiety.

about me:

A roast chicken that lives in the southern hemisphere.

Export Studies Instructor, ICF Certified Qualification

Committed to promoting the "output" thinking system, and using "output" to promote the growth of more people.

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