Why you don't get along well with yourself

The story starts here

It seems to be back in college, when the volleyball team of the department was about to participate in the competition, but because of the shortage of manpower, I asked someone with basic skills to help me. I also participated in the practice after not playing for a long time. Well....for someone who came to help, the first day of practice was to catch and kill the ball and serve, I really felt that my sister had a grudge against me (who told you not to participate in the volleyball team? Kill you!) (purely Accurate guess), the next day, two black black spots appeared on my arms. Have I become very good at catching the ball? I don’t know, all I know is that this is very helpful to me in class. When I want to doze off in class, I just say to my classmates next to me: Hey, please help me press this side (bruises), and I will bounce off the chair immediately, which is super refreshing!

The beginning of self-blame

After some preparations, it finally came to the day of the match. We had a good relationship with each other. The senior did not kill me, but instead killed the opponent. My wonderful defense and the perfect performance of my teammates, we went smoothly. WINNING!!.. THAT'S WONDERFUL!! In fact, I don't remember the game at all, I just remember, I lost the last point because of my carelessness, the game was over, we lost, and I was crying all over the place because I didn't protect the last goal and let my seniors end the last game of their college career like this. I feel very guilty and can't forgive myself. Since then, I have always blamed myself for my mistakes, regardless of whether they were caused by myself or not, I have to take the mistakes as my own first; No sin, was it abused like this?

The self-talk method of letting yourself go

In that volleyball game, you did miss the last chance to reverse the game, and there is no way you can change the outcome of the game, but if you want, you can forgive yourself, whether those mistakes are really related to you or not, you You can try to forgive yourself without any reason, because this is your ability and your right, you deserve to be forgiven, you deserve to be treated well.

Because love doesn't need any conditions

I'm He Pu, see you next week~